Dp and I have been engaged for nearly 2 years and so far have not set a date or really had anything more than a brief discussion about the whole idea.
Tbf in that time I have had to finalise my divorce and sort out some debts so it wasn't the right time to plan a wedding but now that is all sorted I feel like now the time is right to set a date.
I did ask Dp recently about a particular, meaningful date coming up in 2 years time that he seemed happy with but still we have not had any further discussion about making anything official. He feels that there is no rush and we have plenty of time to set a date/make up our minds, plus there are other projects that we are financially committed to at the moment.
This is all fine, however since we got engaged I know of 3 other couple who have also gotten engaged and they are all getting married in the next 4 months. I know it isn't a competition (nor would I want it to be), and I can't quite articulate why this bothers me exactly but I think its just the fact that it feels like isn't 'real' until we have a date in mind and have at least made some sort of plans towards it. Maybe its also that I seem to be surrounded my people getting married atm and yet we aren't any further forward than we were 2 years ago.
Wibu to ask Dp to set a date? I do believe he wants to be with me long term but, by his own admission, he is not as fussed about marriage as I am and therefore is not as motivated to do anything about it.