AIBU to not support DD with her YouTube videos?

[AlfieandBrooke]

DD is a singer and has been using vine/musically, etc. for a while now and has an ok following (not huge). I've never been keen... However, she used to make them with friends and then they used to post them and I had no control over that and soon, struggled to have any control on what she was doing.

Anyway, she now has a YouTube and has a few thousand subscribers, again not huge, but I don't like the idea of that many people seeing her online. I just don't like anything about it.

She wants this new microphone for her Christmas present and I've said not if it's being used for the videos. My mum seems to think I'm being a bit ridiculous.

She turns 16 at the end of this month.

As long as her school work isn't suffering I don't see the problem. She's just singing. There are much worse things she could be doing and posting online.

I would get her the microphone, tell her you want her to be happy and let her know your concerns. Teenagers are usually much nicer if you explain calmly and listen. And I think most of them do secretly care what their parents think !

She must be good with that many followers!

YABVU. Support her, she’s 16 not 6!

YABVVU. The poor girl. I don't know what else to say without sounding really mean!

You're very clear on your distaste for your DD's activities, but not so clear on why you feel this way - can you explain a bit more?

I get the feeling you thought the reasons would be obvious to us all, but as you can see from the thread, it's not at all!

I think at 16 you'd be far better getting onboard with it so you can make sure she's keeping good controls and is being sensible, rather than going against it.

What will you do if you say no and then she uses Christmas money or savings to buy a mic anyway?

You can't make money on YouTube anymore. There have been so many changes recently-- it's not the same place it was even a couple of years ago. So she is very unlikely to have anything come from it. With only a few thousand subscribers she will be earning literally pennies per month. Just not worth it for all the hate and bullying she will experience. I wouldn't let my DD do it either. Once those videos are on the internet they're there forever!

I honestly thought she was going to be seven.

Buy her the microphone. A few thousand followers, thats really good!

I honestly dont get why you would nit support her tbh.

I don't get why you would not support her. I'd get fully into it, if it were me, and be totally aware of what she is doing, to help keep her safe online.

And you can disable comments.

Not quite sure what the problem is here. She's 16!! She must fell quite unsupported when she probably hoped you might have some pride in here ability

I just can’t fathom why you would be so horrid about it. Poor girl.

No response from OP. What a surprise

Support her but help keep her safe