To expect a parent to once in a while check where their boy is............

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joanna4 · 09/04/2007 18:25

Background - the boy in question is my sons mates friend he discovered our street on day one of the holidays a week ago and since then he just goes home to sleep.
No one checks on him calls him to see where he is indeed he finds it bizarre that my son - who is only 12 comes in to let me know where he is going and is expected to take his phone with him so I might contact him should I need to.
I am not responsible for other peoples children nor the feeding of them I am not a childminder- been there done that!
To top this off he has spat all over my son and has just said he will keep braying on our door until he comes out my dogs were going spare we couldnt even get tea in peace.I am all for going to his house with my sons clothes for his parents to wash but no doubt there wont be a welcoming committee waiting for me.

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ScoobyDooooo · 09/04/2007 18:28

some parents just don't honestly give a shit & as long as there kids are not in there way they don't care where the hell they are

luckylady74 · 09/04/2007 18:33

i feel very sorry for this boy, but that behaviour is unacceptable - i take it a good telling off from you didn't get through to him?

monkeymonkeymoomoo · 09/04/2007 18:33

You're not unreasonable at all but that is so sad

PeachyChocolateEClair · 09/04/2007 18:40

That happens, always ahs done. We ahd a ald back where we sued to live was kicked out at 8.30, let in at 5.30- parents worked I would guess- he was 4!! . had a chat with HV in the end, poor lad We tend to acquire them actually- got one on holiday, a 5 year old, bizarrely left in the care of ds1 without talking to us! I wouldn't leave a stone in the care of ds1! (he is SN, btw). We ahd to feed him and all sorts, end of week he was droppin hints that his Dad fancied having our bloody tent!!! Er, no- buy your own.

Used to be a family when we were growing up as well- Mum used to take the lad in, darn his clothes, bath him and feed him . She said his undies were so full of dirt she couldn't see what colour they were. He ended up in care after his Dad tried to strangle him, but turned into a lovely young man. mum couldn't get his sister / brothers to come in- the sister was working for heroin by 15 (as a Nanny! Imagine apying your Nanny in heroin ffs!), and the twin boys were in prison by 16 and just come out for a week here and there before they go back in again.

mum2sons · 09/04/2007 18:48

It is so sad how some parents seem to just leave their kids to their own devices in the holidays. I have a nearly 12 year old and am the same as you re contact, phoning etc Some of his friends parents are not around at all in the day.

I think it is hard for parents too and there should be more facilities for kids like this in the holidays. There is a child like this on every street

ScoobyDooooo · 09/04/2007 18:54

My dss used to be let out on his own all day from the age of 4 years old, he used to go & play down by the river he told me, he always used to take his shoes off (no doubt to go into water) but would leave them there, his mother used to me at home in bed with her then boyfriend

Really makes me very seeing things like this do people honestly not worry for there kids i just don't get honestly i really don't!

Bucketsofdynomite · 09/04/2007 18:55

I would go round. Make it clear though that it is their behaviour that is bothering you more than his, just in case they tend to blame everything on him.

PeachyChocolateEClair · 09/04/2007 18:57

And as they're local, you could mention it at school? It might be one aspect of a much bigger picture (probably is really)

dmo · 09/04/2007 19:47

i am a childminder and have 10 children this week
i always invite the 2 boys who live next door as the parents never seem to take them anywhere
i have a 16 seater minibus so plenty of room

ds1 has just been in "can xx come out with us tomo" had to say no as i have far to many children but i feel sadden to say no

dc's are 9 and 10 and next doors children are 8 and 11

my mindee children range from 23mths to 8 yrs old

chocolatechipmonkey · 09/04/2007 23:04

Oh, we've had this! A child who seems to have been left to his own devices from about the age of 3. One summer, he drove us mad, he would show up about 9 am and not go home till it was dark. At first we'd feed him at lunchtime, but in the end we got fed up with this and would say to him
"Ds1 and ds2 are having their lunch, so why don't you go home for your lunch and meet up later." It worked to a point.

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