To hate the term 'Tea'

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I guess I know I am as it seems the majority use it. But to me, its dinner and growing up I can never recall hearing anyone refer to it as 'Tea'.

I just find it so flowery and annoying.

Got that off my chest now 😃.

Anyone else?

Was always dinner, the meal in the middle of the day and teatime about 6 pm. Of course originally the dinner was actually a meal not a sandwich sitting at a desk or worse still, munching on the street. Posh folk had luncheon, afternoon tea then dinner. Uses working class when eating out at teatime would have "high tea". Some areas still have this regime. Dinner mid day approx then tea a much lighter meal. This may have contributed to less obesity than what we have nowadays according to some "experts".

I still really dont understand why supper is pervy, cringy or posh and no one seems able to explain why

Inverted snobbery, stemming from social insecurity and resentment.

"afters" and "sweet" - no, no, no. "Sweet" is the worst.

It's "pudding".

I am strangely apathetic on the subject of "dessert", though.

This just goes to show how the class system can complicate such a simple process of 3 meals a day - plus dessert KISS

I still really dont understand why supper is pervy, cringy or posh and no one seems able to explain why

David Cameron and his "kitchen suppers".

As a northerner I would say dinner and tea but am quite happy with lunch and dinner.

Supper is a snack just before bed. Anything else for supper is pretentious bollocks.

'What's for supper daaahhling?' I can't imagine anyone other than Prince Charles, Boris Johnson or that super posh wanky politician saying supper meaning an evening meal

Ssyong "dessert" when you mean "pudding" is bad enough, but "afters" or sweet" makes me shudder

I'm with you on afters or sweet (both make you sound like a toddler who makes up their own words) but when I say dessert I do not mean pudding at all. While you may have pudding for dessert, most desserts are not puddings.

Yes Maggie it is all just food (I've just eaten a particularly delicious meal so am in a benign mood) But strong opinions have been expressed! so of course we all have to have our say xxxx

Anything else for supper is pretentious bollocks. you see, I would never dream of calling you common for eating "tea" as your evening metal.

But somehow you think it's ok to call my language "pretentious bollocks". Hmmmmm

Yep i hate the term "tea" too. Reminds me of corination street (not in a good way). "Supper" annoys me too. Sounds too posh. I prefer to say Dinner. I'm not sure if it's true but I was told the term " come and have your tea" was from when that's all people could afford for dinner - an actual cup of tea and nothing else.

meal not metal. Unless you're really northern and very tough.

Even northerners dont eat metal in the evening!!!

I am probably common too

I refer to it at lunch and dinner now I am all grown up.

Even though I stand by the fact that 'tea' comes from high tea and was eaten late in the day. And dinner ladies are now 'midday supervisors' or some such crap so dinner and tea are feasible.

Tea is sandwiches and cake (if your lucky) and actual tea late afternoon after lunch before dinner/supper. I rarely get tea. 😭
I believe supper is a hot meal at the end of the day such as macaroni cheese (i.e. Simple) rather than dinner which is a richer affair maybe with several courses. But I've never really understood the distinction between the 2 and DS1 tells me he doesn't know which cutlery to use if there's more than 1 knife n fork so what do I really know?

Being northern it’s breaskfast, dinner, tea and if still hungry before bed a light super snack like toast etc always been this way for me when people call tea “dinner” they’re from the posh bit of England or summat 🤷‍♀️

d DS1 tells me he doesn't know which cutlery to use if there's more than 1 knife n fork so what do I really know?

Tell him you start on the outside and work your way in course by course

so what is really wrong with being from "the posh bit of England" then? It's an accident of birth as far as I can see. I can totally agree that 'kitchen supper' or 'country supper' could be a bit wanky, as it they both imply that you could do better if you could be bothered, or alternatively that the people attending said events are good enough friends/family so you don't have to bring out the linen napery and silver cutlery (should you possess either of those things).

But if someone asked me for lunch/tea/dinner/supper the only thing I would say is "brilliant! what time shall we come and what can we bring?"

So I still really want to understand why we are pretentious wankers for talking about supper rather than salt of the earth northerners who call a spade a fucking shovel when we have us our tea? (irony alert for those who missed it)

Yolofish northerners call a spade a spade. Not a fucking shovel.

umi you missed the irony alert then!

existentialmoment I don’t know anyone who says they are going for ‘dinner’ in a restaurant.

@ArcheryAnnie * I still really dont understand why supper is pervy, cringy or posh and no one seems able to explain why*

Unfortunately i cannot explain why i think supper SOUNDS pervy (i didnt say “supper is pervy”) .... i just think it sounds pervy.

“Would you like to cone round for a little supper and a night cap”

PERVY

Yes, YABU, U to be irritated by what other people call things..... life is much too short and there are worse things in the world that a meal called 'Tea'.

I'm a 'northerner', from the North East and it's tea for us. My DH is from Warrington, he said it's always been tea from where he came from. If you had 'Lunch and Dinner' you are 'posh' according to him.

So our meals are: Breakfast, Dinner, Tea (or in DH's terms scran, scran and scran). Even when eating out for tea, we say 'Going out for summit to eat' haha.

There are a lot of things that people call things, like 'bread buns' are known as cobs, rolls, baps etc in various regions - it's all the same thing, but I wouldn't be irritated by it.

Supper definitely does not sound pervy
What's pervy about supper!?

You may dislike the word supper, but that doesn't make it pervy