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To ask my neighbour to stop people from asking for him at my house?!

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Ducknose · 04/10/2017 15:17

The house next to me has been remodelled into small flats and rooms, it's currently being used as a halfway house/probation hostel (not too sure what the set up is but lots of drug dealing, comings and goings, and new people showing up every few months). It's the bane of my life to be honest.
A lot of people seem to want to get hold of the 'main guy' who lives there. Last week a man was hammering on my front door, windows and stood shouting up at the house until I got up out of bed, kids scared, and asked him what he wanted. He said 'is this the flats I've been sent here' (he was incoherent for the most part). I said 'no it's next door you want '. Similar thing happened again a couple of days later.
Just now I was stood washing up when someone knocked on my back door, asking if the guy next door was in. I jumped out of my skin! You can't access my garden unless you jump over the wall from next door. This man thought nothing of it. I don't feel secure here anymore, should I tell the man people keep bothering me asking for him? Not that I see him much and very much try to steer clear!

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Wontbedoingthatanytimesoon · 04/10/2017 16:27

Is it not possible its a form of social housing?

one of the flats near me I know the landlord leases it out via a scheme with social services. They have people move in every so often for a few months at a time for various different reasons theres always a stream of social workers in and out.

I would write this situation out in an email with the address and your concerns and send it to every email address you can find, social services, council , probation services, police, local MP.

surely one will reply?

Wontbedoingthatanytimesoon · 04/10/2017 16:27

do you mind me asking do you own, if im honest dosent sound like its going to get any better could you move?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 04/10/2017 16:37

Not necessarily. I've worked with a few housing charities that have hub and remote sites. But there would have been staff there at some point.

Trunkisareshite · 04/10/2017 16:38

Contact your local MP. They should be able to help you.

highinthesky · 04/10/2017 16:43

This is a police matter, end of. The best you can hope for is that the problem is moved on, fast (to some other innocent neighbour).

HeebieJeebies456 · 04/10/2017 17:05

192 free version only shows details from the electoral register - which people would have to add themselves to. Many don't.

When did the occupancy status of this building change?
All residents should have received planning notice about the proposed change of use if it's all legit and above board.

Personally, i'd check with the probation service and council to see whether this is above board to begin with.
The landlord could easily have just converted it to a HMO without a specific licence to run it as a probation hostel.
I've seen it happen, house turned into bedsits and not a shit given about the type of 'tenants' that move in.

HeebieJeebies456 · 04/10/2017 17:09

Just thought - what if there are paedo's passing through those doors?

I think i'd be getting all the residents names checked to see whether they're on the sex offenders register or not.

Ducknose · 04/10/2017 18:18

Some really good advice here, thank you.
Just got off the phone and have sent some emails, logged everything (again!) and someone should be in touch from a community project tomorrow, I won't name it here though, I'm already giving loads away.
It's just an end house, the drug dealing which was going on 24/7 in the back garden stopped when the last group of residents moved on before the place was boarded up. The only other property overlooking it is mine, though so they would have known exactly where to look if reported. It's still rife in the general area though, in the alleyways. I've seen someone take a brick out of a wall and put a package there at half 2 in the morning.
I've thought about moving, in an ideal world I would but I love my house and the location is brilliant for schools, job etc.
I've got no idea what any of their names are. The most I've spoken to any of them was to ask one if any of his 'friends' had happened to see anyone in my garden when the kids' school bags were stolen off the doorstep last September (he replied, 'oh sorry love there are some scumbags about! No morals! If you give me a rough time I can track them down' 😬).

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MrsTerryPratchett · 05/10/2017 02:50

Just thought - what if there are paedo's passing through those doors? I can guarantee that you, me and most people live near sex offenders. Lots of them. Most of whom won't be on a register. False sense of security is all those things give us.

SouthWindsWesterly · 05/10/2017 03:43

I had a house opposite me like this - not with the drug dealing by the high turnover and apparently officials hacking them in and out. The house had been sold 10ywars before but it had clearly been made into something similar to your neighbour set up. It turned out instead of probation it was for male asylum seekers who were running from persecution. For the large part they were respectful lovely people who were just trying to live their lives but occasionally in any situation you would end up with a bad/naïve apple who forgets that a Facebook party invite not set to private might mean it gets forwarded on and end up in a mini-riot. Try the home office as well. They won't give names but will forward it on to the person in charge.

mathanxiety · 05/10/2017 04:09

Sounds like a flop house and not a place that is supervised in any way by any sort of social or justice system services.

Ducknose · 05/10/2017 05:13

That's true MrsTerryPratchett
There are a couple of local offenders that I know of because of my old job but there will be many more not even on the register.

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Ducknose · 05/10/2017 05:18

SouthWindsWesterly these men are local. There were asylum seekers living there previously a number of years ago, very quiet and respectful and brought no trouble at all.

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Scrumptiousbears · 05/10/2017 05:23

Instatutionly corrupt? Why do everyone blame the police when shit goes wrong? Don't bother replying, I'm not interested in another Police bashing post.

Schmoopy · 05/10/2017 05:57

I think i'd be getting all the residents names checked to see whether they're on the sex offenders register or not.

It doesn't work like that. You can't enquire about people just because they live nearby you and you think they look a bit dodgy.

Besides, you're better off being mindful of all people you don't know, rather than taking your eye off the ball generally because you're focused on the two or three people you know about.

Ducknose · 05/10/2017 08:14

@Scrumptiousbears I already said this wasn't a police bashing post. Think of some of the biggest institutional failings/cover ups and you will probably have the right police force. Say no more because like I said, this isn't about that.

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