Taxi driver shouted at me - was I in the wrong?

[shouldnthavesaid]

Had an emergency GP appointment this morning for chronic ongoing pelvic pain. GP was very dismissive, said no chance of seeing a gynaecologist until I lose weight , despite having seen them regularly since I was 16 - she said to take codeine and put up with it.

I am very, very sore so got in a taxi outside surgery. Its less than 10 minutes walk home but I am exhausted having been up all night and dizzy with painkillers.

Taxi driver shouted at me when I asked if he could take card payment as I'd run out of cash and said I must be joking him. I suggested maybe it was best I just walked and he shouted that I certainly wasnt doing that as he'd been stuck half hour in a queue.

I feel so stupid but ended up shaking and in floods of tears. I'm supposed to be going out in 20 minutes and can't calm down.

Was I in the wrong, what should I have done better?

OP I can strongly recommend Amy Stein's book Healing Pelvic Pain, also 'A headache in the pelvis'

Lots of help for chronic pelvic pain - adhesions can definitely cause issues which some pelvic work you can do yourself can help with

Hope you feel better soon

Ijustwantaquietlife Wed 04-Oct-17 14:14:59

People exaggerate, cabbies especially

How incredibly rude.

Beside the fact that that's a shitty comment about 'cabbies', he's my friend. He isn't lying to me. I've seen his accounts.

I don't believe that they are paying a 25% transaction fee on a £4 charge. That's way above any of the fees I've seen

It's not a 25% transaction fee. As I said, it is a £1 per transaction fee. If you're going to 'disbelieve' me, at least read what I've actually said.

He's welcome to buy the card reader I use, it cost £30 and took about 15 mins to setup and start receiving payments

'He's welcome to buy...'

I'm glad he has your blessing

He's my friend & I am really worried about him & his family. I know ALL the facts & figures. I don't have the energy, or inclination, to argue with some random on the internet who doesn't know either of us, but decides she doesn't believe me.

If you're going to 'disbelieve' me, at least read what I've actually said.

Are you trying to be ironic? I clearly said 25% transaction fee on a £4 charge, basic maths.

I have the greatest sympathy for someone with a failing buisness, but if he was paying such astronomically high (by industry standards) card fees it doesn't sound like he's the kind of person that should be self employed.

I've know of many cabbies that are struggling now, and lots of it has been down to lack to innovate and wanting to stay stuck in the past and just hoping things get better. Go to a different rank, sign up with an app, get contracts with local businesses or hotels. Instead they would rather just protest and just keep doing the same thing.

We all know the real reason why cabbies like cash payments, so they can be "creative" with their accounts.

It might make surgery riskier but it's not a complete no.

OP ask to see the protocol/pathway for your situation. I'd still ask for a referral and also help in addressing BMI.

As I told a registrar once - yes I'm overweight. I've been told it many times yet it's always said with judgement and the assumption I've not made attempts to address it. So what can you do to help me as refusing to consider surgery and no providing any support isn't acceptable.

The GP here didn't examine me no. I said I'd had bleeding for weeks and pain getting worse but she said as I have had a lot of scans and frequent admissions over the last 12 months , albeit in a different health trust/board/whatever they wouldn't rescan me . Last scans were in May which was when they said I had an ovarian cyst. It just confused me as even tgoufu last gynae team werent going to operate straight away I was beinf seen by a pelvic pain specialist anaesthetist, was told I could get pelvic floor physiotherapy/biofeedback and start a pain management programme. I was told all of this would still happen here. For the doctor to refuse to refer me onwards (even just to discuss) and say come vack in a few weeks if you're still sore , when I've had problems since I was 12 , is incredibly frustrating. Will try for a second opinion. Other option is to go via sexual health team I think, but maybe they wouldn't see me , I'm not sure.

I'm sorry to hear stories of taxi drivers struggling too :( , life seems shit for lots of people just now sadly :(

The taxi driver was an arse.

The GP was also an arse - a bmi of 33 does not make surgery “extremely risky” and we do diagnostic laparoscopies (looking inside with a camera usually for pelvic pain, specifically looking for endometriosis, pelvic congestion, pelvic inflammatory disease, ovarian issues etc) all the time on people that size and larger! You are certainly not too large for a safe anaesthetic and the surgery is only marginally more tricky at that weight. BMI of more than 45 and then yes they have a point.

My BMI was about 42 when I had my investigation lap

Does OP have a 'right' to the surgery?

Isn't BMI just a stick to beat people with, to keep costs down?

Don't give up OP.

a BMI of 33 would make surgery extremely risky.

WTF? I don't think so.

Have you tried a GUM clinic OP? They're experts in sexual health and may be able to help with something if your GP is refusing.

He was being a nob.

I went to a piddly little village fete recently . In a field. In the middle of nowhere.

There was an awesome chutney stall, and asked if he had a website I could order from because i wanted a jar and had no cash. His reply ' I'm not an animal, (?!) we take cards, and applepay etc'

He had a little contactless gadget hooked up to his phone.

And that was for a £4 purchase.

Gamer I haven't no but I was wondering if that would be the answer to be honest! I find the thought difficult but will phone them. I'm very confused as initially when I saw a doctor in the practice they said a gynaecologist would see me once my notes and letters were transferred , but I imagine that can't be happening now. My mum has encouraged me to make an appointment with the most senior doctor there for a discussion so have done that. In the meantime I will try phoning the sexual health clinic and see what they can suggest too.

*He had a little contactless gadget hooked up to his phone.

And that was for a £4 purchase.*

Many people do now, taxi drivers are downright lying if they say a small transaction costs too much to process on a card. They are often just used to cash and doing fraud.

ijustwantaquietlife

I don't know what your problem is, but you're being fucking obnoxious.

My friend puts every single fare through his books because he thinks it's the right thing to do.

I'm an accountant, I don't need a lecture on 'basic maths'. It happened to be 25% of that fare, but it's not a 25% transaction fee. It's a £1 flat fee. Words matter.

He's been self employed for 30 years. I've already explained he's tried other avenues, has apps, contacts hotels, schools, care homes, supermarkets & investigated other ranks etc but our area is FLOODED with drivers because the council like the fees too much to limit numbers.

Your comments are out of order. I'm not going to respond to you again because it's derailing the thread.

shouldnthavesaid. Thank you 🌷 I'm sorry my comment to you has derailed your thread somewhat.

You should be getting all of those things you were previously advised you would get. BMI of 33 isn't so high it would stop you being able to have them. Re read 'Hics' post and be determined to get the help you need.💐

IME having been to both I much prefer the GUM clinic to the gynaecologist I saw. They are lovely and reassuring and actually listen to you. The gynaecologist was dismissive and didn’t seem to understand the issues I was having.

It’s another step if you’re not getting anywhere with your gp.

Just wanted to chime in by the time a cabby gets their money which is paid via the firm they work through around 20% is skimmed off, the payment charge, then the firm takes 10-15% off.
I used to get taxis everywhere and the drivers got well shirty about it.

No he shouldn't have shouted you. If its a private hire taxi company then ring the same number you rang to order and put a complaint in. Whether he has to queue in traffic or not is not your problem and he shouldn't have took the job if he didn't want to do the short jobs. Most decent drivers will do the short jobs anyway. There's sometimes more money in doing twenty short jobs than there is waiting all day for a long distance one.

Hope you're feeling better and your op comes soon OP.