To ask if anyone else finds sex is less good after childbirth?

[Vaglikeacavern]

I've name changed because it's a rather embarrassing subject to discuss tbh, but I'm wondering if I'm alone or if this is a common thing that is just not talked about.

Does anyone else find sex less good after childbirth? I had two standard vaginal births, no major tears, but both quite fast labours.

Since my DC were born sex is just not so good any more. My clitoris is much less sensitive than it used to be. My vagina feels all lose so I don't feel 'filled up' during sex any more. I find it difficult to orgasm, and when I do it's far less intense than it was pre children.
I kept hoping would improve but youngest is nearly 2 now and it's still the same.

Does anyone else find similar? Is there anything one can do about it? I would really like to properly enjoy sex with my DH again

Loose, not lose

Go to your GP.

I would be mortified discussing it with my
GP. Has been my gp since I was 6.

(and yes I know this is a public space but know one knows who I am here)

Can a Gp actually do anything about this sort of thing anyway?

Are you doing your pelvic floor exercises?

Find a specialist women's physio and do the exercises they give you

Personally sex is way way better now in my 50s than it ever has been. Kids grown up and more privacy and sleep.

If you think it’s a physical problem go see your GP but guessing you are perhaps in mummy mode permanently and not sexy mode?

Have you tried a vibrator to stimulate yourself? Do you feel sexy? Try role play? Night away?

I'm pretty sure it's a physical thing not a mental thing. It's the same with a vibrator too. I don't have an issue with getting in the mood iyswim, it's just that the physical stuff doesn't feel the same/as good any more.

Donkeys what these hell is that? Mind boggles.

Op go see your GP then and don’t be shy. You deserve good sex.

I have another window open on Housekeeping I shall report my post.

Haha donkeys That did make me laugh, I was just about to start googling for the magical vag vac that would solve all my problem

What is the AIBU in your question though ?

I mean why post in AIBU when there is a Sex section

I, too, had two super fast labor (and hardly no push) and little tears and yes I do have same problem, kegal (spelling?) excercise is one thing that can help, but it will get better in time

Yep, I have no desire at all since giving birth in January. I can't orgasm, and sex feels uncomfortable and almost annoying. Even oral does zilch. If anything it feels tighter and drier too. Breastfeeding kills sex drive and makes me dry I think. Are you bfing op??
Ugh DH and I just had a massive fight about it too. It feels like a chore now.
Can you go see an obgyn ?? I wouldn't want to discuss it with my middle aged male gp either!!