Paying on dates

[dailydance]

I’m posting here for traffic. I’d really like peoples opinions on this.

I have always paid my own way on dates - 50/50. My recent ex used to complain about his ex never paying (he met her on sugardaddie). He was saying that I was a breath of fresh air. Then he dumped me for someone he met on sugardaddie. Faod I did not meet him on that site. It made me wonder - do guys actually like paying on dates? Does it make them feel “like a man” / to impress?

I’ve always split things equally as I don’t feel comfortable that they may expect sex in return for paying for a date. But now I’m thinking that some maybe guys just like to impress by paying? I’m confused. Have I been dating all wrong by splitting things equally?

And it wasn’t in a sugar daddy website!!

For starters lying, i’m too old for the site . But yeah, I wasn’t with him for his perceived money (he pretends he has more than he does but in reality his living was only a shade more than mine, which isn’t huge at all). I was with him for him, which in hindsight wasn’t who I thought he was.

Alright - so for my next dating adventure, I’ll play it by ear I guess. I’d definitely split it if I didn’t want to see the person again.. the guilt otherwise would suck :)

He’s clearly being lead by his cock if he’s involved with someone from sugardaddy.

He’s a tit. Don’t let the 50/50 bit cloud your judgement.

Thank you for all of your insights :). I’m happy to hear I haven’t been making a massive dating etiquette mistake :)

For me I'll usually split the bill if it was clear we won't be going on a second date, and take turns if I knew we were going to go out again.

My chap and I roughly take turns or alternate rounds. If I am cooking and have bought food/beer/wine, he’ll pay for pre-dinner drinks in the local, and vice versa. I have no idea why in the modern era men or women would expect the man to habitually pay

I wouldn 't care how much a man insisted, back when I dated I would insist on paying 50/50. I guess I didn't like the idea of being beholden to someone who may have turned out to be an arse, plus it only seems fair and reasonable to me.

When I was younger and skinnier I went on dates with guys that I'd met on sugar dating sites, and the expectation was that they would pay for everything, because it's a buisness relationship.
On a normal date, I dislike splitting the bill, I find it a bit of a faff, and always tended to alternate, one person pays for drinks, one pays for dinner etc.

I've always sort of expected the bloke to pay to be honest. On the basis that they've asked to take me out. I'm old fashioned and respect a bit of chivalry. I also like to have doors opened for me, be offered a jacket if it's cold, make sure I'm home safe etc.

OH would be offended if I paid on dates (not that we have many these days!)