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AIBU?

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About the rat?

54 replies

HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 09:30

Well it's not just the rat really.

Ds2 aged 9 has ASD and attends a special school 18 miles away, so has transport there and back. Two other children get picked up, but as ds lives the furthest away he gets picked up first/ dropped home last.

Transport was overhauled over the summer so he has a new taxi driver and chaperone, It's the first time for both of them in this line of work.

Ds never stops talking is very sociable and loves chatting, mainly with adults. After the first few days they installed an in car dvd player, this lasted 2 weeks, ds mainly likes to watch Spongebob on repeat and talk endlessly about what's happening. The dvd player has vanished.

Then one day last week he arrived home very chuffed with 50p he had won. He had
it for beating the taxi driver in the silence competition on the way home. After some probing I found out this competition only starts after dropping off the other 2 boys, so the last 15 minutes of the journey.

This competition has been repeated daily on the return journey, with ds mainly winning an extra strong mint Hmm Ds thinks this is great.

Yesterday, I opened the door to see him brandishing what initially appeared to be some kind of roadkill. I don't think I disguised my horror very well and blurted out "What on earth is that?". His chaperone looked kind of sheepish and told me he'd won in in the silence game, and how good he was getting at it Hmm

I think i mumbled something like oh great, well done and got ds inside. On closer inspection it is a vile , cheap scratchy rat "toy". It' positively evil. Ds loves it. He thinks it's cute. It's now his favourite toy ever and I had to strongly persuade him not to take it to school this morning. It could take a child's eye out with it's demonic plastic claws.

I'm dreading what could arrive home with ds today.

So, AIBU? There is the not small issue of bribing a child with SN to keep quiet, that I am very uncomfortable with. I know he can be draining, but it's only 90 mins in total each day, much of that he is just talking to his friends in the taxi (they're in the same class). I'm hoping the game will fizzle out soon. In fairness he likes the game. WWYD?

Then there is the issue of the evil rattington, who is currently staring unwaveringly at me . Waiting for more friends to join him.

sigh that was long, well done if you read it to the end. It's been bugging me and i needed to write it out.

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HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 10:45

Just noticed it only has 2 whiskers, and only on one side Grin

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TitaniasCloset · 04/10/2017 10:47

Where would you even find a rat like that? Grin

HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 10:47

It's claws are almost identical to those cheap plastic forks you get free in chippies

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HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 10:50

JonSnowsWife , that sounds hideous I wonder what goes through peoples heads when they gift children these things? Grin

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Maudlinmaud · 04/10/2017 10:50

It almost looks home made. I bet someone put lots of thought and effort and maybe even love into that.

WizardOfToss · 04/10/2017 10:57

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KurriKurri · 04/10/2017 10:57

The chaperone is being paid to sit in the car with your DS - if that involves listening to him chat then that is part of her job. How mean to make him shut up, I think she needs to learn how to interact with children a bit better.

The rat is completely hideous - my DS would have loved it too when he was 9 Grin What are it's ears made of (nut shells?)And it's nose? Where could you buy such and item and why did the chaperone have it about her person ? Is it a halloween "ornament" ? so many questions.

Celticlassie · 04/10/2017 11:05

That rat is disgusting. I honestly don’t think I could have it in the house. And it may well appear in my dreams tonight.

On a more serious note, however, you have to speak to the chaperone. It is her job to take care of your son, so I would bring up the ‘game’ and see how she justifies it. She surely can’t think this is the right way to go about her job.

HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 11:08

It's all moulded plastic , including the main body which has scratchy material glued to it. It could well be a halloween ornament! He looks like he's been previously well loved 😂

Ds fully appreciates the rat.

I've had to pop into work for a couple of hours (only in next street to my house in case people think i got there too quick and call troll 😁) so if I'm not about I'm not ignoring anyone

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JonSnowsWife · 04/10/2017 11:11

Meh. She meant no harm. She is elderly and was having a clear out about six months after her husband died. She thought my DD would like it. She does. I dont. But I have a bottle of holy water in case the twatty thing starts playing on its own again when they're both in bed! Grin

HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 14:19

I guess they're getting something right, the kids are liking this stuff. Holy water takes me back to my nana, she always kept a bottle in the cupboard for emergencies Grin

Thanks for all the replies, I think I need to say something, but I will be tactful!

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FizzyGreenWater · 04/10/2017 17:23

It's like a rat Edward Scissorhands

Call him Ratty Scissorpaws

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 04/10/2017 17:28

Oh gosh, that is hideous! Grin

I have no advice: totally on the fence with this one. It does seem off from the chaperone but your son enjoys it... difficult. I think if it were me, I'd let it carry on but keep an eye out. If your son became unhappy with the "game" I'd step in.

SleightOfMind · 04/10/2017 17:35

Could you talk to the chaperone about your son learning about social interaction - the need to take turns in conversations, that sort of thing and suggest they play that sort of game instead?
That way she'll feel your getting her on side rather than criticising.
I don't see the problem with 'bribery' though, you win the game you get a reward? What's not to like.
It's the shutting him up that's the problem.

SleightOfMind · 04/10/2017 17:35

Mine would love Ratty Scissorpaws too.

PaddingtonLoverOfMarmalade · 04/10/2017 17:37

I have a daughter with autism so I understand how much it can hurt when it feels like your children are being treated unfairly. But we need to swap drivers!

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Andsoitisjustliketheysaid · 04/10/2017 17:38

I understand why you are uncomfortable with the game. I want to be all cool about it, but I don’t like it.

However, taxi man is obviously very sweet albeit not well trained. He is doing what he thinks is right. He knows your ds brings the prizes home so he isn’t trying to hide the game. I would tread very carefully as you try to manipulate this round to a better situation. I would hate for him to have his confidence knocked - another taxi driver might ignore him or berate him for wittering on. Sad

I wish I had some advice but it isn’t an easy situation, if it was you wouldn’t be here.

juneybean · 04/10/2017 17:41

Crying at "I'm not feeding him"

HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 18:34

Paddington, they're so sweet, we used to have pet rats years ago before dc, much prefer the real thing Smile

I'll bet no-one can guess what ds won today Hmm

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HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 18:35

Love ratty scissorpaws 😂

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MissBeehiving · 04/10/2017 18:39

That's more of a coypu to my mind.

HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 19:07

Today's prize

drumroll

A piece of elastic

🙄

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Andsoitisjustliketheysaid · 04/10/2017 20:35

Not just any elastic... a ratty piece of elastic...! (See what I did there? Grin)

HeadfirstForHalos · 04/10/2017 23:33
Grin
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UterusUterusGhali · 04/10/2017 23:48

Omg the new MN bat surely? Grin