DP and I have recently started playing online poker together in the evenings, it's something we both enjoy and are pretty good at.
One day last week, I played a few hands whilst DP was in work. I told him when he got home and although he was happy I had made a profit, he asked me not to do it behind his back again. I agreed as I can be silly and go all in wily nilly!
The next day after getting home from the gym, DP tells me he's played some poker and won. I wasn't mad, but pointed out that if he didn't like me playing without him then he shouldn't play behind my back either. But as I had done it once before it was fair enough. We then agreed not to do it behind each other's back again.
Last night I found out that DP has played again behind my back and gambled on the footy. Now I have no issue with DP spending money, but he's gone behind my back after we agreed not to, he's broken my trust.
AIBU to feel like this? We talked about it last night and I explained that if he's doing it behind my back then maybe it's becoming a problem. He denied it was a problem and claims he was just being stupid and not thinking how it would impact my trust. I want to believe him but told him I'd be checking his account to make sure.
AIBU to check his account regularly to make sure he hasn't got a problem or would that make me a control freak?
DP suggested changing his password but I don't want to do that. I want him to prove to me he can not gamble behind my back without me having to force him to stop.