To feel like the family Travelodge?

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Got a text today from DH that SIL and other half want to come and stay tomorrow night. They're doing a long drive (probably 8hrs or more) so thought they could break the journey by coming to stay with us. They haven't decided at this short notice to do the journey and i just feel a bit hacked off that we're not in a position to say it's not convenient (it's not convenient for a load of reasons but it's "family" so apparently that's not the point).

Don't know what the reasons are, but for just one night could you not cope?

Depends on how often they do it and how long they're staying for. I live in London, whereas loads of family members don't so our house does seem to be a hotel for family when they visit London, but it's never for more than a weekend and it's only about 4 times a year and never the same family members, so it's easier for us to just put up with it.

Isn't this what families do for each other?

See I don’t mind this kind of thing, and in my family we help each other out.

Unless it’s a regular thing, is it really a big deal?

2 adults no kids would be fine for us at short notice. It would not make me feel like a travel lodge. How often do the do this? If it's every week you may have a point

As the usual response to this kind of thing goes, if DH is the one who is alright with the visit then DH is the one who can sort it.

It's probably twice a year. Having them to stay isn't generally a problem, I enjoy having them over and the kids love seeing them. This week is really busy (by already busy life standards) so with so little notice it is frustrating. Fair enough if they've only just decided to do the journey but it's been planned a little while. And it doesn't help I cleared the spare room yesterday ready to start decorating so there's just a bed in the middle of the room and chaos in the rest of the house.

What are the loads of reasons that make it inconvenient? There are some I can think, working really long hours, you or kids are ill, you had something planned... Otherwise I think it's fine.

Sorry X posted

Well just say they can stay but the room is mid decoratuon.

2x per year does not make you a travel lodge ffs

I think you are making a fuss over nothing , they're family just make up the bed where it's is and job done . I doubt someone calling in at short notice is going to worry about the house being chaos .

I think if you don't want to rish around making the house guest-ready, then just tell them they are welcome to stay but it'll be a bed in the middle of a decorating site.

Which will probably be OK with them if all they want is a stop-over!

YANBU
I wouldn't want anyone, even family, randomly descending on my house with little notice. And I wouldn't feel it necessary to have a reason, either - I like my own space and don't like my routine being disturbed by having to host people.

I wouldn't like it either - especially as they have been thoughtless about lack of notice. Tell DH if he doesn't think the bed in the middle of the room isn't enough he needs to sort it and sort it back. If the room will actually be freshly wet-painted, then they get the sofa/floor in the living room? But whatevs, husband does all the faffing. And feeds them (and you). Them's the rules!

doesn't think it is enough, I mean...