That if you have something that isn't yours, you replace like for like?

[Florence16]

If someone stayed in your house when you went away and drank a bottle of white, AIBU to think they should replace it with a bottle of white?

I've come home to find my only bottle of (white) wine gone, with a red one in its place

They should replace it with exactly the same wine/same quality/same type, yes.

I’d be a bit cross too, especially as I don’t drink red wine. But it’s not a massive deal to get worked up about in the big scheme of things. Unless they replaced a 2010 Condriu with blossom hill...

Ooh yanbu at all, that would piss me off. I've no objection to someone drinking the bottle of white just so long as it's been correctly replaced by the time I return i.e. same wine.

is it someone you can pull-up on it without causing ww3?

I'll just replace it. I wasn't sure if there would be a reason for it and I was being thick but they have genuinely replaced it with a red. I don't drink wine as it makes me ill, only use it in cooking and DH only drinks it if there is a bottle open and going but he wouldn't buy it to drink. Oh well! I don't think chicken risotto would taste right in a red wine sauce, I guess I'll have to investigate what I can use red wine for

I would give it back to that person the next opportunity I had (eg birthday, Christmas, dinner party) etc.

Replace your chicken with mushrooms in red wine risotto - delicious.

Depends, sometimes I'd replace but if someone is staying in my house I'd probably say they could help themselves and not expect replacements.

Would depend. Why where the staying in your house. Did you tell them to help themselves, are they family and figured it was ok. Without a backstory, can’t really say.

I can't fathom the thinking behind "replacing" the white wine with red wine. If the person felt that they should replace the wine they drunk, why the hell didn't they literally do that and get precisely the same wine, otherwise, what's the point? It's ridiculous.

Maybe they drunk a few bottles - some of their own and one of yours - ans forgot which were which.

if you don't drink wine, maybe they're dropping you a hint that they'd rather you stocked red next time

Try coq au vin.

It depends why they were staying. Were you doing them a favour providing them a place when they needed or were they doing you a favour ie babysitting/house/petsitting?

@Florence16 red wine is vile so I'd be very upset if someone did that to me (although I don't really drink white wine either!)

But red wine goes very nicely in a beef casserole, as I found out the other day when DP made one for tea the other day

Coq au vin or a similar casserole type meal?

We had painters in, one of whom was an alcoholic and drank several bottles of my nice white wine. They denied everything and then left a bottle of whiskey and a bottle of red on my doorstep!

Shortly afterwards, DH had a colleague give him a bottle of whiskey and then a friend brought us a thank you present of a bottle of whiskey... WE DON'T DRINK WHISKEY!!

We have since removed all whiskey from our drinks rack to wipe out the impression that we are hardcore whiskey drinkers.

That was rude, wouldn't dream of just helping myself to stuff like that without it being offered and if I did desperately feel the urge for wine I'd replace it with either exactly the same or as close as I could get.

Although if someone was staying in my place without me being there I'd either hide anything I didn't want them to have or would say something like 'help yourself to anything but not the white wine please as I'm saving that for best'.

Coq au Vin or Boeuf Bourguignon

I'd have a heart attack. I don't like red wine at all, I just drink white wine.