3 months ago a friend of mine passed away after a short illness. She told no one that she was ill and planned her funeral to be attended only by family. I have been devastated by this. Whilst I totally respect her wish for privacy I selfishly wish I'd had the chance to see her one last time and I've struggled with the fact I wasn't allowed to attend her funeral. We only found out about it all after it happened.
I don't know her husband very well and she has a son who lives in America but I would like to send her husband a letter about some of the happy memories I have of her- of which there are many. AIBU to think this is appropriate? Given how private this has been kept I'm not sure if my writing to him would be appreciated. Thoughts welcome.