Not to do their packing?

[Antoniacaenis]

I'm off for a weekend away. The first without DC (2 & 4) and DH since DCs were born. To be honest I have been looking forward to DH doing 2 days of single-handed parenting almost as much as I have the weekend itself. He is a good 'hands-on' dad but as he works full time and I am the SAHP he rarely has both DCs by himself for any length of time.

It's probably BU that I wasn't him to experience what I do most days. Now I have found out that he plans to take the DCs to his parents for the weekend ( the only other time he has had both DCs on his own for this long (I was looking after a sick relative) he went to his parents too. I know it's up to him but a little bit of me thinks he's cheating a bit? PiL are the lovely, spoiling kind...

Last time I left them to it I carefully packed everything for the DCs weekend away. But this time I am thinking I should leave him to it. Bearing in mind I am the SAHP AIBU! ( should note that I DO NOT pack for DH, just the DCs). Oh and he's off work the day before they are going too.

Def don't do the packing, leave them to it. Enjoy your weekend

I wouldn't pack for him as I wouldn't know what he planned to do while away so wouldn't k ow what to pack iyswim. He might want swimming kit or wet weather gear. He should do it himself as he knows what he'll be doing with them.

Thanks bubble that's the perfect way to phrase it too!

Step back from the suitcases OP! I am the same and always end up packing for holidays and even DH's business trips that are every other week. God knows why. The only time DH has our kids on his own is when he takes them camping. Even then I have to check they have warm clothes. A few days of bliss until they come back and dump filthy wet clothes and all the paraphernalia in the hall.
I would say, if it's just a weekend in someone's house, leave them to it, yes. What can go wrong? If he forgets their underwear, he'll have to go and buy it.

Another one saying stay away from the suitcases!

And make these weekends away, or a whole day to yourself, more frequent, so that you have the same amount of free time as him.

Leave him to it. Don't make any special meals or anything in advance either.

Do not pack for him! It's not that bloody difficult, for God's sake!

I see where you're coming from but if you're anyth ing like me you'll be stressing the whole time that they don't have anything warm/waterproof/their fave teddies

As much as he needs a lesson it won't be worth it

Desperad0 - they are going to their grandparents house not the wilds of the Outer Hebrides.

I don't understand why you consider you doing the packing to be the default option, and leaving it to him is at all controversial. If I were in your shoes, it wouldn't even occur to me to do the packing. He's the one taking them...?

I wouldn't trust my dh to pack for an hour shopping trip 😂