More of a wwyd really I suppose

[mummyrabbitpeppapig]

Go out with good friend roughly every three weeks or so - usually local ( around an 8 mile round trip) I seem to be the one who always drives ( going to hers means around a two mile detour ( four mile round trip ). Right at the beginning she used to offer to pay for half my meal or cinema ticket or parking ). For months she hasn't offered once. I didn't mind at first but now it's starting to niggle me. Feels a bit awkward and I don't want it to affect our friendship. So, wwyd?

Can't you just ask her to drive next time?
You say 'a thank you is too much to ask' - does she not physically say 'thank you'? I wouldn't really expect anything of my friends in this set-up, but if it is upsetting you, just say you want her to drive sometimes.

So she doesn't say "thanks for the lift" every time?

I think if you've been letting this lack of "gesture" bother you that much then you can't really be enjoying her company too much. Otherwise you wouldn't begrudge one pound sixty or whatever, you'd just be having a nice time instead. But then a lot of these types of thread imply there's a bunch of people out there struggling to have fun. I don't get it. It's like instead of just enjoying other people, (the good AND the bad), we're all just a bunch of miseries now who would rather be at home watching Netflix.

God op you sound like hard work!

Reimbursement is not necessary.... not at all.

Maybe the OP would like a drink once in a while.

Are you her spokesperson Night?
I'm sure OP would have mentioned if the reason was because she fancied a drink.

Years ago a friend asked me to go to the gym with her. I have never had any interest in going to the gym in my life so wasn't keen, but she didn't want to go by herself so I agreed. Then it turned out she didn't want to go to the gym in town we could walk to, but one out of the town that meant driving to. I didn't drive at the time, so we both knew it meant she would be doing the driving.

We started going twice a week. She drove, I bought us lunch. Each time. Then, three weeks into it she tells me her husband said I should be chipping in for petrol. I blurted out, "that's great, it'll be cheaper than paying for the lunches". From the look I got it was clear the idea was I would be chipping in as well as paying for lunch. We stopped going.

My friend was an American attached to the military in Scotland so they got cheaper petrol than the locals did anyway. I sat down and figured out what my share of actual used petrol would have been, 25 pence...

Kate

'Oi, friend! Your turn to drive next time'

Asking for a contribution towards petrol for an eight-mile round trip to meet a friend is taking the pics quite spectacularly, though