To be unable to shake off my inferiority complex

[onlyindreams]

Does anyone else have this. I always feel unworthy and can't accept that anyone would like me. The fact i have no friends reinforces this feeling. I'd love to have a few friends but i tell myself why would anyone want to be friends with me. I feel as if others are just too good for me itms.

I'd just love to be a bit more outgoing and to feel people liked me, but half the time i feel as if i'm boring them and they can't be arsed to bother with me. Sorry if i sound moany, but i'm just feeling it more than usual today.

Things that helped me:

-YEARS of therapy
-Having hobbies and going to hobby related groups - people talk about the hobby so you don’t need to think about talking about yourself
-Learning new things - then I could see how much better I was getting and becoming more confident
-pushing myself to do stuff and acknowledging after that I had done it
-spending time with people who I would like to be friends with to develop the friendships.

Those thoughts are very habitual but they can be changed. I still have them, although I'm much better now. I still have to do daily affirmations, and manage my emotions to prevent sliding backwards. I use CBT and EFT and sometimes just have to damn well refuse to give headspace to that Inner Critic. Try the books of Pete Walker, maybe?
Agree that hobby- or sport-related ways of meeting people are the best.

Are you currently being treated for depression?

No i'm not.

I would go to the GP. It sounds pretty textbook.

This sounds like me. I'm the only person I know who doesn't really have any longterm friends (in touch with a few people from school but not close), moved around a few times and lost touch with people... after a while it starts to feel really personal. Definitely agree with trying to meet people through some hobbies so you automatically have something in common.

Anyone else out there feeling inferior because they fell out of love with their partner and are sticking with it for the sake of the kids for now, but feeling continually punished emotionally by the bloke?