Aibu to be confused about my relationship.

[Wontbedoingthatanytimesoon]

I have been with my boyfriend about two years.

We are mid 20s.

We are in what I think is a serious relationship I live at home with my mom he lives alone in a flat.

When we first met we seen each other everyday as we both used to finish work early as we started early. Then shifts changed we seen each other every weekend and maybe one night in week. Fine whatever work comes first tbh and stuff comes up not practical to see someone everyday and get stuff done (and not get fed up lol)

So we went on holiday and we did fall out on the last day however we did make up. Since we have got back I've seen him most days stuff have been going well.

So lately he always says stuff like oh you live here now and we make a joke of it if it comes up etc. ( I don't live there. I don't want to it's tiny no room I want to buy a house I wouldn't rent he knows this so it is very much a joke in my eyes. )

But this weekend he has said things like. Your always here. You have moved in. And to the dog she's always here now etc

I feel like he is joking but he isn't. I'm so confused should I just not go round now I have said to him I'll just not come round anymore or you come to mine now as I'm here all the time but he just doesn't say anything

Sorry for the bad spelling and grammar I'm on my phone on the desktop version so it's just a nightmare.

I'm so confused this is such a stupid trivial
Problem sorry to anyone with actual problems who reads this and thinks wtf grow up 😂🙈

Another thing he might be hinting about is youre there all the time yet aren't contributing to bills - this used to annoy me about my ex (many moons ago) when he lived with his parents but was at mine all the time

This sounds like a business plan not a relationship. It all sounds very odd.

It sounds as if you keep making odd plans as an alternative to talking about your feelings.

I never said to my DH 'let's move in in a year, get married free that get a baby approx 3 years later'

We loved each other, wanted to be together, organised seeing each other when we could and our plans arose from how most easily we could effect that.

You are planning to have a child with him in six years but you are fretting about what he meant when he said something a few days ago.

My advice would be to find a way to talk properly with him and sort out what you both want right now. And don't have children with him unless you are married or have arranged equally robust financial protection.