Ex has been making me beg for maintenance each month. He won't pay me until I message him to ask, then will pay me some, then a bit more when I remind him again, then the rest when I message again. Just as background info he was extremely abusive, in every way possible although he has rewritten history (don't they all!) and never threw pint glasses at me in public or smashed up my belongings etc. never mind the financial and emotional abuse.
I'm not on a great income as had time out of work with the dc as a SAHM but have been back at work over 4 years now building my career from scratch. I can make ends meet. Just. I am gradually saving up so I can take him to CMS as I can't afford to not have the money every month (something he knows full well).
I was providing all clothes for dd2 and dd3's visits EOW. Dd1 isn't his and refuses to speak to him. After yet another month of begging and still not having the right amount and bills coming out tomorrow I have told him all favours will stop and I am no longer sending clothes with them and he can provide them. He can more than afford to do this, although I'm no longer sure what he earns. He's in the same job but will have had pay rises. AIBU?
I've name changed for this thread as he will most likely find it and go off on one, I don't want him linking all my other threads as well.