To feel pissed off about being removed from a WhatsApp group

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Think I need to be told to get over it but am way more annoyed than I should be!
Recently left a job & we were all in a group for general chit chat & arranging stuff but it was named Keeping in touch so I thought that's what we'd do-the small group I worked with were out for a meal last night & it was only then I realised I'd been removed by someone else.

I need to have a word with myself don't I?

Little bit, we have to keep ours to current staff as current projects are discussed so when people leave to work for competitors it'd be inappropriate. Or if they're discussing things like after work drinks you won't be included anymore - just the nature of moving on

I'd be annoyed too op, it seems a bit petty. I'm assuming it's a work group though and as you no longer work there someone has taken you off. I'd definitely be wanting to find out who it was though!

Can you not text one of the group you get on well with and ask about it? If only one person removed you then surely the others would be wondering where you were at the meal?

Make sense Candy-it's just everyone says keep in touch etc & they asked me to go out with them at the end of September to cheer me up (my dm passed away after I left my job) then didn't even ask if I wanted to. It was only a small team & no trade secrets as such. They could have just started a new group & id have been none the wiser!

I know who removed me as it says!
I've messaged the person I'm closest to (or was) and she's read the message and ignored me!

It's tricky. We've got a similar WhatsApp group for our office which we use for anything from 'can someone grab some milk' to talking about projects, to arranging nights out. When people have left they've always left the group chat and kept in touch in other ways. Recently though a couple of people have left and have stayed in the group. It's awkward as we do discuss work things on there so it's not always appropriate. Seems very 'Mean Girls' to remove them/ask them to leave though...

(Just checked, our two are still in the group so it's not you!)

Lol Striped! To be honest if it was all work stuff I'd probably have removed myself but it hasn't been. I suppose I'd like the decision to have been mine.
I think I need to remind myself that I have proper friends who genuinely care & that these were colleagues who make the right noises but don't really mean it!

I finished work a few months ago and have been invited to several evening meals out since I left so it's the polar opposite of your experience. To be quite honest, at the last function (which was a leaving party for two members of staff), there were more ex-colleagues than those still with the company. I thought that was rather nice - showed what a good team spirit we had.

If your colleagues are showing their true colours now, I'd just mentally tell them to get lost and concentrate on your non-work friends and maybe your new colleagues.

Definitely have a word with yourself! Nothing stops you staying in touch with individual people in that team but it's time to move on. Focus on your next steps?

Start a new group without the person that removed you

That sounds lovely Iloveblue somehow don't think it's going to be like that for me! But yes it reinforces my decision to move on I think.

baby thank you - you're right!

pickley it's a shame because the person who removed me was 1 of the nicer ones! She is a moderator of the group though so I suppose it could have been someone else who suggested it