To miss alcohol so much I want to start drinking again?

[SoCockneyItHurts]

I gave up drinking 6 weeks ago today . I could easily drink a bottle of wine of an evening but it was having an impact on my mental health and waistline! I do feel better since quitting and during the week I'm fine but I'm starting to hate weekends! My DH still drinks at the weekend and I'm so bored sitting watching TV while he drinks his usual few cans of lager. I don't want to go out as can't stand the thought of going out sober. Each time I quit I'm convinced it's what is best for me but when the boredom sets in I always start up again, promising myself I'll moderate but end up drinking too much on a weekly basis. Do I sound like a saddo??

Can you limit yourself to just a glass or two on a Friday and Saturday evening or do you not have the willpower? Or make yourself a spritzer with fizzy water (you'll get used to it I promise!), or try an ice cube or two in an ordinary glass of wine-makes the drink last longer as they melt and obviously the end of the glass is less alcoholic than the start of the glass!

Find something else to do in the evening. Read, knit, sew, run, gym, learn Greek. Anything. It needs to be something absorbing so that you enjoy it and it gets you in the state of 'flow'

I currently have 2 bottles of red a week but will be dropping it to 1 as dh is off the booze for a month.

Hoping I can continue at just 1 bottle even after the month.

Could you limit to Fri and sat only?

You probably drank out of boredom too. Can you do something else? Find an interesting hobby, learn knitting, start blogging, go to the cinema, start hill walking, do a class, anything? If you have 6 weeks behind you it seems a shame to start drinking (if it affected your mh) just out of boredom.

Try some alcohol free beer.

Have you tried www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3029224-The-Brave-Babes-Battle-Bus-Go-Sober-For-October

Hi OP, well done on the 6 weeks. That’s fantastic! If, as you say, drinking was having an effect on your mental health, do you really want to start again? If the answer is yes then that’s your call. If you don’t want to but you’re struggling to stay stopped then it might be time to look for some help. I know that might sound over the top but I stopped drinking a year ago for very similar reasons to you. Stopping drinking wasn’t hard but staying stopped was more difficult. Learning to live without a drink and enjoy life can be hard. Have a look at what support groups there are around you - you could try some of the booze free threads on here or even an AA meeting. You really don’t have to be a daily drunk / George best type to get something out of them. Trust me

Well done OP! I used to drink disgusting amounts. Like 30-50 units a week.

I had to stop earlier in the year as I was suffering with anxiety and was put on meds to help. I've since stopped the meds and haven't returned to the booze. I don't miss it at all now. It disgusts me tbh.

I'd keep going, hopefully soon you'll find you don't miss it. Life is so much better sober!

I drink loads of AF beer but even that's losing its appeal. Hobbies are all well and good but I don't want to go and do them alone plus nothing ever holds my enthusiasm long enough. We rarely go out as a couple due to childcare. And when we do I just end up feeling resentful because he's drinking and I'm not.

Ah OP I'm in a very similar position right now.

I'm child free every other weekend and have no friends/social life. Ended up in a horrible rut of drinking at home just because I was bored and because I love good wine/gin/whiskey. Could easily drink a bottle/bottle and a half of wine + a few spirits a night.

Decided to kick it into touch as part of a general diet/health kick and am 50 days sober today. Haven't found it in any way challenging or difficult, haven't had a single craving. Have lost weight, feel great, don't miss feeling groggy and hungover but I also don't feel like I'm an alcoholic and I really don't relish the idea of never having a drink in a social situation again.

I will never drink alone at home again, I know I'll find that pretty easy tbh but am toying with the idea of having a few socially when I next go out. Have been invited on a night out with some mums from one of my DC's hobbies and would feel so awkward and conspicuous and boring drinking soft drinks all night.

Am also considering starting online dating at some point and the thought of doing that sober terrifies me, quite frankly. When I last did it I would have immediately swiped left on anyone whose profile said they didn't drink .

On the flip side I have had a few really vivid dreams in which I have drank and have subsequently felt really awful which is making me think that I subconsciously value my sobriety more than I realise.

Gah. It's a tough one.