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Is this going to be awkward?

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Assisi01 · 30/09/2017 18:31

Ugh so out last night for work drinks. Just a casual thing with a few of us that would be friendly.
Everyone started heading off either driving home or getting lifts. I was going to get my sister to collect me as she/we don't live too far away and I wasn't planning on staying out late. Last guy left is someone who I get on well with, he's about 12 or 15 years older than me, married with very young kids. He was going to get the last train home which was at 11 so I said I'd wait on with him and have one last drink. I'm also newly married myself and should say that I do not fancy this guy at all, he's just a nice man who doesn't seem to be the messer\cheating type at all.

Anyway we ended up staying there for about 3 more hours. I was very drunk. Just to quickly say nothing "happened" but I remember us sitting very close together where our legs were touching. I was sitting across from him initially and I remember him saying after everyone had gone to come and sit next to him or that I was sitting very far away and to come over, something like that. I think I was probably a bit touchy feely with him too (mortified) but I'm a bit touchy feely in general and I think I felt sort of "safe" around him as I don't see him like that.

He obviously didn't get his train and paid about 80£ to get home as he lives in the complete opposite end of London. I'm just cringing a bit about seeing him on Monday. I know his wife was ringing him and I think texting him a bit too. My husband is fairly relaxed as we're younger and no kids yet but I feel guilty too that I stayed drinking with work colleague and being a bit "close" with him. I was chatting away about my H to colleague but I actually can't recall much else at all of what we were talking about for 3 + hours and I don't actually know him that long really.

Anyways, any chance I just have a hangover and overthinking this? I'm thinking nothing happened, we drank too much, and just make sure it doesn't happen again?? Or will it be very awkward and embarrassing when I next see him? Blush obviously I won't be making a habit of drinking like that with men anymore now that I'm married...

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Sayyouwill · 30/09/2017 18:34

It certainly sounds like you were flirting with each other and enjoying the attention. It will probably be awkward I'm not going to lie. It's good though that your husband does trust you and did react badly :) shows you have a good relationship!

Santawontbelong · 30/09/2017 18:36

Both drunk and Bet he can't remember much. .
Forget and move on.

bigchris · 30/09/2017 18:37

I'd forget about it

You'll feel better tomorrow after a good night's sleep Flowers

annielouise · 30/09/2017 18:38

Doesn't sound to me that you were both flirting. Both drunk for sure but he didn't make a pass at you from what you say and you didn't throw yourself at him. I wouldn't worry about it. If you see him Monday, laugh it off and just say "never again, I'm too old for hangovers" or something. If he thinks and starts acting you've given him the green light just keep brushing it off and avoid him where possible for a bit.

Tameagobairanois · 30/09/2017 18:40

I'd meet the situation head on on Monday morning.

"few too many on Friday, never again!''. I find if you race up to somebody and present your script of normalness at them at full force then they normallly don't change gear to being all awkward around you. I had to learn this the hard way though. Men aren't as skilled as women at smoothing over potential awkwardness so you have to get in there first.

Frouby · 30/09/2017 18:42

You have the beer fear! Dirty kebab, bottle of lucozade and a good kip will solve.

Gemini69 · 30/09/2017 18:54

yip.. Beer Fear Flowers

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 30/09/2017 19:03

Yep, you have the fear ! 😄
You did nothing wrong, tomorrow's a new day. 🌺

yorkshireyummymummy · 30/09/2017 19:09

While I agree that you did nothing wrong please please learn a little from this........if you go out with work mates then drive. That's my advice. Then you won't be in this position again. There's too many people to count who have gone out , got horribly pissed and ended up arguing with/ flirting/ kissing/ snogging/ shagging a workmate. And it can rebound horribly. It never ends well, trust me!!!

rainbowduck · 30/09/2017 19:12

I would make a joke of it and say that I felt very poorly the next day. Keep it lighthearted. You're fine.

Whocansay · 30/09/2017 19:13

I imagine he'll feel as bad as you do! Forget and move on.

divadee · 30/09/2017 19:17

Ah yes the fear after a works night out. I have been there and done that spectacularly. Went out with mates from work, ended up at a casino me and male friend the only ones left. Ended up kissing, then having a feel up outside the cinema at 3am. Blush and having to face him Monday morning was horrific on so many levels. Although it worked out we have been together 4 years and have an 8 month old now. Grin

strongasmeringue · 30/09/2017 19:23

I think it's time you stopped being touchy feely with men who aren't your husband, especially after you've been drinking, as I'm sure his wife wouldn't be best pleased.

RedLemonade · 30/09/2017 19:41

It's totally the fear. Agree with PP who said to march right into it on Monday, "Oh my god, I thought I might die of hangover. Never again etc etc". Make light, all good, then draw a line under it and move onwards and upwards.

IPodOverboard · 30/09/2017 19:46

It's called Hangxiety in our house.

You'll be fine tomorrow.

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