To think I owe no loyalty to someone who has dumped wife of 28 years and 4 kids to move in with strumpet

[tinkerbellhadpiles]

Friend of DH, married forever to a lovely woman, who has raised four kids - youngest 15. Suddenly gets to a big birthday and decides that he's been unhappy 'for ever' and the solution is to divorce her, without warning or discussion, just moves out and then three months later, having offered her a derisory divorce settlement, tells me he's moving in with his new girlfriend.

AND HE EXPECTS ME NOT TO TELL HIS WIFE because they haven't come to terms on the divorce. He's sold their second home to buy a new house for his new gf and thinks his wife should not be told as 'it's immaterial to the divorce'.

What would you do? I'm tempted to phone HER solicitor but not tell her. But that's probably being a wuss!

N, many people hide all sorts of stuff. I mentioned below these men showing off about it I know. Someone else I know moved to Thailand to avoid paying his wife a penny. it's done all the time. Also there are a huge lot of very silly women around who don't know what bank accounts their husband has, wouldn't understand a pension if it kicked them in the face and have never looked at a tax return. They need a good shaking.

On the inheritance point F is right. Also future inheritances usually don't count either because the parents might leave it to the cat's home or the child might die first or whatever. So it's the luck of the draw when you inherit. People go off and try to get people to change wills if a divorce is likely to the money is given elsewhere. They made Charman break up trusts he and his wife had set up for the children years before so the wife could get her 50% or whatever, I think from what I'd read (I think that's being appealed).

What is very unfair is you can have a wife who works and saves every penny for 20 years in her BS account. Her husband earns the same and lives the life of riley, spending everything he earns on betting and drink. At the divorce assuming no children, the husband gets 50% of her savings.

Xenia, but can't a lawyer track the cash down? Don't you have to produce bank statements etc when you are getting divorced? And how could you sell a house if it was in two people's names without forging a signature?

I know divorcing people try all sorts of tricks including giving up work rather than pay alimony but a house is a pretty traceable asset I would have thought.

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sorry hijack over

v anonymous

Was Darrel Rivers a character from Malory Towers? Giving age away if nothing else.

Am I right?

yes

who are you named after?
character from 'Apocalypse in 2050'?

Hopefully. If he's sold his second home then it mustn't have been held jointly with his wife so he's free in law to buy and sell his own properties freely at any time just as wives can do. A wife could give 100k of her savings today to the Catholic church and that isn't illegal and then in a divorce that sum wouldn't be there to allocate. Here if the home is in the gf name and may be they can show it was not just a straight gift but intended to house him may be it could be stopped but it's why people freeze sales and bank acconts so people don't start giving the money away. Money disappears all the time in divorces and it's very hard to track it down.

I imagine that the new girlfriend isn't that new if he trusts her enough to give her a house.

Well, if the buying of the new house is very close to the commencement of divorce proceedings, then the court will take that into account. Doesn't mean that its value will still be added to the family pot, but the court has the power to look at behaviour and to act accordingly.

The norm in financial disclosure is to go back about 3 years - each party has to provide the previous 3 years' bank statements, etc., so the chances are that any nefarious shenanigans will come to light.

That makes sense to me Freckle. Otherwise it's a bit like giving your house to your children shortly before you're made bankrupt.

That's true. But it's also true people try it all the time and if it's properties abroad and the wife isn't very sure what he has or which company name it was registered in etc it isn't always as easy to track down and get back these so called gifts.

Oh go on! tell the wife!