to think you should know when your own DC were born?

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Last night when I got home, DH told me about a conversation he had earlier with his mother. DH is the eldest of 3 sons, he's 53 and they were all born reasonably close together.

Apparently they had a conversation along the lines of how old was youngest son this year as it was his birthday last week, is he 50 now or was he going to be 50 next year. Apparently DH's dad couldn't remember either.

Now I know it's been approximately 50 years and you can't remember every detail, but surely you should know your own DC dates of birth?!

I recently told two separate people on two different occasions that I was a year older than I actually am - I'd somehow sped up the passage of time. And I get DC3 and DC4s birthdays horribly confused - I know the years, but muddle the months - I managed to do this in A&E with one of them once. So yes, I can see how they can't remember if youngest is 49 or 50.

I often have to check with my children how old I am.

It can feel like a big deal your own mum and dad getting mixed up. How can your own parents forget something that should be meaningful to them?! But if the rest of the relationship is loving then I'd just shrug it off as one of those things. Especially as his parents are probably 70+. I'm only 36 and can't be relied on with my memory at times!

I remember my son's time of birth and birth weight but pretty much only cos they're both 7.12

I'm 48 and sometimes struggle to remember what age I am! My mum has 5 dc and I'm 100% sure she wouldn't be able to tell me all our ages.

My mum had 6 children. She never could remember our names never mind our date of births. When she was diagnosed with Dementia she thought we were her siblings and would list all their DOB and argue with us that she was much younger than we were.She had 10 siblings. After a visit you would leave not knowing who you were or what age you were

If she's got a 50 or nearly 50 year old, she's getting on a bit isn't she? I'd say this is more about becoming old and doddery than being uncaring. My 72yo mother is hopeless with dates and numbers.

That makes me feel better. My mother (who is a narcissist and a bitch to me) was horrible because I couldn't remember my dad's dob. I knew the month and year but knew the 26th didn't sound right. It's the 28th. He died when I was a teenager 2/3 of my life ago. I'm 46.

Sometimes I can't even remember how old I am! The other day I told someone I was 41, I must have blanked out the last five birthdays

My Dad doesn't know how old I am;pretty sure my Mum doesn't either. I was rushed to hospital as a child and Dad couldn't remember my middle name or DOB to check me in (once I'd been taken through to theatre)

I could not understand that MIL could not remember the day of the week her DC were born on when mine were born. She was my age now when DS was born and a deputy headmistress so not exactly dozio.

DS was born on a Sunday at 12.07am
DD was born on a Monday at 11.52pm

I remember shit like that though.

And it's no big deal;they still love us just all gets a bit foggy!!

There are 8 of us, mum gets our names, ages and birthdays muddled all the time. I don't just mean by a year either, she told someone I was 39 recently, I am 29.

I have a real problem remembering when my youngest sisters birthday is, I know the month but for some reason can never remember if it's the 8th or the 10th, I have to check every year and she's my favourite sibling.

My dad, in his early 50s, didn't remember my age much less my birthday. He thought my younger brother was born two years before I was and before he and my mum were even married .

Idiot.

I sometimes forget my own age to be honest. For some weird reason I thought I was 50 the other day, I’m 48.

After I had my daughter I always thought her birthday was three days later than it was, took me years to get it right. In my defence I spent 4 weeks in hospital after I had her and was drugged up and out of it for much of the time.

My little brother celebrated his birthday on the wrong day till his late teens. He was born a few mins after midnight, and everyone just forgot that it became a new day, wasn’t till I saw his birth certificate one day we realised.

So no I wouldn’t think it strange at all.

I am very vague about dates, struggle to remember how old I am etc. Managed to book my leaving do on the DC's birthday because the date didn't mean anything when I looked in my diary. When I focus I do know what date it is but dates just do not stick in my brain. As I am in my early forties I can't blame old age yet!

It sounds pretty normal to me. Those occasions become less important as time goes by, and it's easy to lose track. My mum had 4 brothers, a husband and two sons. She would often go through 6 names before she got to my younger brother's! We all knew the mantra and I could do it now, but it would out me.

My friend applied for her child's passport. It got rejected as she'd put the wrong date of birth on the form (think 29th instead of 30th).

He was only about 14 months old at the time, so not as if he or she were so old it could've put it down to old age.

I don’t even remember my own age 😂, I thought i was 23 for 2 years

My mum used to “forget” my age when paying for my bus fare in the 80s. I was 4 until about the age of 6. (So she didn’t have to pay). One memorable moment was my mum saying to the conductor “she’s 4” and me piping up saying “no I’m not! I’m five and a half!” And her having to begrudgingly pay the 15p half fare!

My DP always has to confirm with me what our boys DOBs are, I just think some don't remember or see it as important... Another bit of wifework maybe? I fill in all the forms and arrange things for them so it's imprinted on my mind! He's a great dad in all other ways though.

My Dad doesn't know mine and my sisters dates of birth and DH doesn't know our kids. In fact the only birthday he knows is his own. He wouldn't have a clue when mine is...or our anniversary...or his dad's birthday...

I have 4 close family members in October and I can never remember which is which.
Facebook has reminded me the last few years so those brain cells have been allowed to die!

funny reading some of these ... this year (i'm 59 now) I struggled to remember how old I would be on my birthday, thought I was going to be 58 again. And have struggled for years to know the exact ages at any time of my brother & sister - I know they are 10 & 5 yrs younger than me but at any point in the year they may actually only be 9 or 4 yrs difference :) & that stupid maths is too hard. I meant to say too, that when I was expecting my eldest son, I was pretty gobsmacked to learn that my then MIL (who had 9 children) couldnt recall all the details of their births - like weights & times. Really believed that any Mum (& me at that time too) would remember that special info forever. Have to really think now which of my boys was born on which day at what time, lol without checking their baby books. Happens to lots of us I guess. I remember seeing some silly TV advert where the man forgot his wifes name as new info on some McD burger had taken up space in his brain & pushed old info out