To get a boob job?

[verynaiceham]

We rent a house but live comfortably. Would IBU to get a loan for a boob job when we should really start saving for our own house? I've always wanted my boobs done but have but always just been careful with what I wear. A recent holiday abroad (first one in 10 years)made me realise how uncomfortable I am about the appearance of my boobs (there's no hiding them in a bikini!)

I would go for it, I am all in favour of cosmetic surgery within reason. What does your partner think about waiting longer before you start saving? Make sure you do your research on your cosmetic surgeon.

I've mentioned it a few times to my partner. He tells me i don't need one and talks me down but he also says if we had plenty of money he would happily pay for it for me. We could have started saving for a deposit years ago but with house prices being so high and mortgages hard to get we decided that it was so out of reach we would just enjoy life instead. I guess the only reason we feel that we should maybe start saving is because everyone else our age seem to be doing it!

My partner told me that my desire for plastic surgery was just an expression of other issues about myself, he said that plastic surgery would not change the way I felt about myself.....

...wronggg!!! After my surgery i felt great about my appearance and I continue to feel great 5 years later. I only wish I had had it sooner. There's no medal for going through life with sticky out ears or whatever it is.

I had better add that I can only speak for myself, of course. Partner has to agree and every surgery carries a risk.

Problem with boob jobs is that, from the research I did some years back (might be different now?), they are not one-off procedures. The implants need replacing every few years, and each time they're removed the surgeon has to scrape out the cavity and that removes some of your natural breast tissue. So apart from the cost (can you afford the upkeep?) there's the potential issue that if you can't have it redone you end up in worse shape than when you started. That's why I didn't get it done.

I think if savings for your house are important you should budget a bit aside for that and save the rest for surgery if thats what you want to do.

How old are you? I'd be really careful about making a lifelong commitment (because that's what implants are) over what might not be a lifelong insecurity - I'm sure it's different for different people but I found so many things that I hated about my body in my early twenties (including small breasts) are things that I just never think about a decade on.

I would definitely buy a house first, renting is insecure. As pp have said you'll have to keep up with them for life and if you can't afford them now I wouldn't

As above said can you afford the upkeep. And sometimes it's within ten years. I shed problems which I thought I was covered for 18 months down the line which resulted in having to have them removed to heal then I could have them put back in. The company removed them after several threats from me and the NHS (as they refused to believe anything wS wrong with me when nhs was draining pints of fluid from them every few days!!) then turned around and said we can give you discount on putting them back in. When they were supposed to be included in the price as it was medically needed to be removed! I even paid for the extra huge he cover. Needless to say told them to go fuck themselves and went au naturelle.

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whataload wow really? Didnt know that. In that case OP please think very carefully and do your research. If you do decide to as I said please budget to keep up savings for the house.

If you have very large boobs it can cause back problems, and you used to be eligible for a reduction on the NHS. IDK about now with the cuts, but its worth talking to your GP first.

Breast implants can make breast cancer detection a bit more difficult

The problem is that the implants need to be replaced every decade or so, and what happens if it comes to the time to have them replaced and you still haven't got the money for it? And taking out a loan will affect your ability to get a mortgage. I personally would want more financial security before spending money on a personal indulgence.

Could you wait and try to save a couple of hundred pounds a month until you can pay for it yourself outright without a loan?

One of my colleagues had her breasts done, and one of them didn't sit quite right. She went in for what was supposed to be a minor revision, but something else went wrong which led to more surgery, massive infection etc. She had to carry around drains in a handbag and missed loads of work. At the time I left the company she was in the process of losing a nipple due to the infection.

It ruined her life, and I still think about her and wonder how she is doing now.

When things go wrong with breast implants they seem to go majorly wrong. Personally, I think the risks are unacceptable.

Go for it! I have had 2 but then I work in the adult industry so the second one was for work reasons. Make sure you do your research though thoroughly. I can recommend Mr chantasaric who was working for MYA in Bristol but that was way back in 2010 when I had my first surgery. Also always size up when choosing an implant size. They never look as big when they are put in and many women are disappointed they didn't chose the slightly larger cc size. 315 is a good starter size if you have a very small frame.

And by the at, implants no longer need replacing every 10 years. My newest op last year I was told the implants have a lifetime guarantee and he wouldn't expect to have to see me again ever. Like I said make sure you do your research but life is far too short. If you want it done then go for it.

I had mine done several years ago in my 20s. Ended up having 4 revision surgeries which was a bit of a nightmare. Ended up ok but not the perfect result I had hoped for - and cost a lot more than I had imagined.

I now have a baby and to be honest I wish I hadn't had them done as with breastfeeding my boobs are now massive. They've also dropped a lot now. As a pp has said, it's not a one off operation (even if things don't go wrong) and I will probably end up getting them redone again after kids - or maybe just getting them taken out!!

If I could do it again, I would wait until after kids - or not do it at all.

Yeah mine had. A lifetime guarentee maddie and I apparenlty has. A good surgeon!! 18 months later however.. I'm in bristol too

I've had mine 12 years with no problems at all and I've also recently had a routine mammogram which was all clear too.

Go for it, I've never regretted mine, best thing I ever did confidence wise.

If this is something you have wanted for 10 years, why haven't you saved for it. I would have no issues with what you want to don but taking a loan out for it wouldn't sit well

Fair enough Due some people are very unlucky. You have to weigh up in your mind as to whether the risk outweighs the benefit you will get from them I.e increased confidence vs future problems. Maybe I have been very lucky as even though my first op 2010 was a 700cc and second op last year was a 1050cc along with 2 children in between and breast feeding I have had zero issues. Obviously I am an extreme case as it's very rare for women to go as big as I have.

I have known a lot of women with implants (in my industry they are rife) and I have only known one person who needed a revision. Many of the women have had them 20 years +. I think if she is totally prepared and really researches what the risks are, how hard and expensive they can be to rectify but still decides that feeling better about herself is worth it then she should go for it. Personally they changed my life (and career ) and I remember those feelings I used to have.

You are lucky you have a supportive partner who loves you how you are though. Mine offered to sell his car to get my first set of implants but I paid for them myself then dumped his ass .

I suppose so. They and me feel so much better about myself but having had them dien and then removed by the age of 19 and a half I couldn't be bothered to pay even more out on my body. I saved for a house instead and bought my first house at 20 years old. I'm glad I chose a house river boobs in the end just because the house prices in Bristol have gone up horrendously since so I was lucky to get on the ladder. I have a different partner now to who I was with when I had them removed. Ex was a dick who cheated. Current partner amazing and expecting our first baby together at 22. I have discussed reduction and uplift no implants with current partner when we're done with having children and he has agreed if it is what I want to do I should do it but he said it isn't necessary in his eyes. Bless him!

Always do what makes you happy! And you are right about a house really should be a priority. Well done getting on so young, especially in Bristol that is a pretty impressive!