Marriage

[Winniethepee]

AIBU to assume......given UK divorce figures, and constant grizzling about partners on this site......that monogamy often equates with monotony?

Yes and no.

Don't think this site is a good representation of the general population when it comes to relationships

Surely it's up to each couple to work on keeping it alive and interesting. Agree with pp .... what you read on here isn't truly representative of life in general.

Is this your experience op?

Or monogamy equates to happiness or even joyfulness.

Were you expecting the happily married people to come on a forum asking for help and support??

"Aibu to feel really happy at the fab relationship I have with my husband...'??

Nope.

Depends on your experience.

There's a lid for every pot.

Maybe you haven't found yours yet.

I've been in an open relationship before, it was interesting at the time, but not something I'm into anymore, more than happy with the relationship I have now.

What annoys me are the friends who've recently become polyamorous and lecture anyone who'll listen that, "Yah, monogamy is just a social construct" Whatevs, I'm not going to bed with you.

People post their problems to the Relationships board (of course) but you'll often see positive experiences on threads about the point/meaning of marriage. I'm divorced but I know several genuinely happy couples who've been together since the 1990s and earlier. Plenty of my married friends haven't cheated. I think that monogamy is not problematic if you're with the right person.

Also, I would say the moaning people do on here about their partners, is equivalent to the amount people moan about their friends, family, in-laws etc.

It's just relationships in general.

Absolutely not monogamy at its best means total trust, acceptance, unconditional love and consideration of each other's needs.
Hedonism and casual sex can't come close.

people dont come here to complain... when things are going ok... its fine its only when you need help/to vent you come here and ask for it