To cut a very long story short my sister and I had a really crap childhood, my mum was only interested in men and how she could make them happy, I was abused and neglected and eventually thrown out at 18. I didn't have any contact with her for years, but then slowly she did her usual guilt trip on me and I started talking to her again, but kept her at arms length.
When her last husband died 2 years ago, she really did seem like she had changed and I started to see her regularly. I felt like we had really started to build some kind of relationship. Then last month she went on holiday and met a man, he took her number and came to visit her 3 weeks after they got back. He stayed at hers for 2 days.
I then got a phone call totally out of the blue, off my mum telling me she loves him and she is getting married in 3 months, and then she is giving up her council bungalow to go and live 100 miles away in his flat, she's never even been to his flat, I've never met him, she hasn't discussed this with anyone.
She cancelled the 3 upcoming meet ups we had arranged, said she doesn't know when she will next be free, and said she will 'call me'. I feel angry with myself for giving her another chance, and angry with her for being so selfish aibu?