Get together

[Namethecat]

A uni friend( 20 plus years ago moved to U.S. after) is coming back for 3 weeks and seeing mainly family of her husband's. Well she wants to meet up with the old group of us. Some have stayed in uni area and others all over the U.K. I will be unable to attend that as I'm leading a course. However she is up to getting a family member to drive her to my area (150 miles or so ) I've never really kept in touch with the crowd as life changes,New people in my life etc. It's troubling me on how to get out of this. Help ?

Why don't you just say you are really busy but hope you meet another time/on holiday/working?

I've tried that but she says I've got 3 weeks to find an hour or so.

Why do you want to get out of it? She's making all the effort - you just rock up and have lunch or something surely you can manage that?

Just tell her the truth, you can't be arsed and you don't want to.

She'll get the message, despite all the effort she was prepared to go to, to meet up with you.

Maybe look into the reasons you don't want to go. .

Are you not even curious?

I just feel I'm not that person anymore. I didn't particularly like who I was back then and have put all that behind me. I know I'm being unreasonable but still I'm old enough not to feel I have too just because .....

Tell her the truth then.