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about DD nappy?

53 replies

sausagerole · 29/09/2017 15:59

DD had her settling in week at nursery this week. For a number of reasons I found it pretty emotional, so I am prepared to be told IABU (just be gentle!). DD seems to be enjoying nursery so far, bit upset when I leave but seems playing contently when I spy on her just before collecting.

On third day I went to collect and her nappy was totally full (wet), really heavy and hanging down. I asked if she'd had it changed and there was no record of it, they changed it before we left.

Then on fourth day when I collected her, her nappy was leaking through her leggings (wet) and again really heavy and hanging down. They'd also not done her a daily sheet of what she'd eaten/drunk, though one of the workers could tell me (but no record)

I'm not usually one to be bothered about little details, but I kind of thought they'd be paying more attention to her during her first few days. WIBU to raise it with them when she's next in?

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Binghasalottoanswerfor · 29/09/2017 16:01

Def NOT BU

kimlo · 29/09/2017 16:01

how long was she there for? Was it a full session or a shorter settling in visit?

Binghasalottoanswerfor · 29/09/2017 16:02

This disgraceful. I'd be pulling her out if they can't get that right on her settling in days. That's supposed to be them showing you how good they are, in a sense. Yikes!

ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay · 29/09/2017 16:03

I would be looking for a new nursery. Keeping a log of food and nappies is super important. If they can't be arsed to do that, and can't be arsed to change her nappy why else is being missed?

I would definitely raise it and also ask what their policies are. Do they chage nappies at specific times, does someone go round all the kids randomly checking who needs changed? Whatever the policy - it isn't being adhered too.

It will be a matter of time before your poor dd gets horrendous nappy rash or thrush.

Ttbb · 29/09/2017 16:04

You should send her to a different nursery. If they aren't even changing her nappy I doubt that they are bothering to interact with her, make sure that she drinks enough etc

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sausagerole · 29/09/2017 16:06

Fourth day she was there 3 hours and 5th day she was there. 4 hours. They said they did change nappy on morning of 5th day but obviously I've not seen a record of it because no daily sheet.

I might just send them a quick email rather than raise in person. I'm really emotional about her atm (legitimate reasons!) and think I'll just end up crying! And yes, that's exactly what I thought - a settling in week you'd think they'd be doing their best!

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sausagerole · 29/09/2017 16:07

Sorry, third day and fourth day that should say

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user1483808257 · 29/09/2017 16:12

I'd be whipping her out pronto. What's next? They forget to feed her? Forget to watch her?

No no no.

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sausagerole · 29/09/2017 16:15

I should say, she does drink alot but presumably access to drinking water would be limited to snack time so can't see how she would have drunk so much that it would cause her nappy to be so wet in such a short space of time.

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LostwithSawyer · 29/09/2017 16:19

Doesn't matter how much she drinks. I'd expect a nursery to be changing nappies a lot more frequently than yours are.
She could get nappy rash...
How uncomfortable to be sitting in urine for hours. Sad

Alicetherabbit · 29/09/2017 16:21

Report to ofsted, they aren't meeting basic requirements and look for a different nursery

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sausagerole · 29/09/2017 16:22

Yeah, it was a size 5/6 nappy and totally full both times so clearly not being addressed properly.

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Glumglowworm · 29/09/2017 16:23

Yanbu

Changing a nappy is such a basic thing I wouldn't trust any nursery who repeatedly failed to do it, especially when it was so obvious that it needed changing

DubiousCredentials · 29/09/2017 16:23

No way would any dc of mine be going back. Surely nappy changing is a basic thing to do? Aside from the fact that nobody noticed it was wet/heavy/hanging down/her clothes were wet.

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sausagerole · 29/09/2017 16:28

I've just remembered, they did have to change her trousers as she spilled a drink on herself at lunchtime. Is it possible that the heavy nappy was due to absorbing the spill, rather than just wee? Although presumably they'd have changed the nappy at that time if that was the case. Not afraid to raise the issue, just trying to figure out what's happened.

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LittleCandle · 29/09/2017 16:29

DGD had to start nursery a lot sooner than intended recently. The nursery have been outstanding and change her the instant they notice her nappy is the slightest bit wet. I would not want to leave my DD there at all.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 29/09/2017 16:35

Doesn't sound good. DD's nursery change routinely throughout the day (I think maybe 4 times in the full day) and then do additional changes for poos. She only ends up with a really heavy nappy when I've been neglectful.

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sausagerole · 29/09/2017 16:40

I know I'm not, but I can't help feeling IABU!

I think I picked her up shortly before a nappy changing slot, but obviously they should still be checking inbetween those times and should have picked it up.

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MumsOnCrack · 29/09/2017 16:41

Personally I'd have a chat with the manager

awrightmylover · 29/09/2017 16:41

here's an idea- mark the nappy in the morning with a permanent marker in a non obvious place, then you'll be able to tell if she's being left in the same one literally all day. If so, then Yanbu.

MumsOnCrack · 29/09/2017 16:41

Those sheets are there for a reason - how's their Ofsted rating?

TheLegendOfBeans · 29/09/2017 16:42

YANBU

that's the basic basics.

My DD has never in all her 12 months at nursery come back with a heavy nappy. Ever.

NuffSaidSam · 29/09/2017 16:52

Change the nursery.

That is spectacularly poor. Don't let her settle there only for there to be more issues and then have to change the nursery months down the line.

There are lots of very good childcare solutions (nurseries/childminders/nannys etc.) you can and will find something better than this.

hidinginthenightgarden · 29/09/2017 16:53

Our nursery change at set times, 11 & 2pm ish and also for poos. I raised this as a concern on here just a week ago and everyone said it was normal Hmm.
If it is that wet she is leaking I would be having words and looking for other nurseries in case it doesn't improve.

NuffSaidSam · 29/09/2017 16:57

It is normal to have set nappy change times, but any child who needs it should also have their nappy changed in addition to this (i.e. if they've done a poo or the nappy is soaked or leaking!).

The fact that this has happened means either they weren't looking at her closely enough to notice or they noticed and just didn't bother to change it. Either one is unacceptable.