To triple barrall our name

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Prepared to be ridiculed haha.

I have a double barralled name. The first part is fairly long and the second part is 4 letters. First part is mothera side of the family and second part is my fathers.

My partner has a fairly unusal second name of French origin.

We are completely stuck with what to do regarding names... not that it matters but we are both women and both super keen to keep respective names but we want to have the same name... bit of a problem!

I love my name as does she and we just don't know what to do...

I suggested having her name and then mine but using only the hyphen betwen tbe 2 parts of my name so it would be like this aaaaaa bbbbbbbbb-ccccc. She doesn't like that as she feels her name would be less important... i get her point of view!

Would it be totally unreasonable and weird to have aaaaaa-bbbbbb-ccccccc...

Or should I use my Mothers maiden name (the first part of my double barralled name) as a middle name and then just use the second half of my name combined with her name?

You might have trouble spelling it

Double barrell each of your middle names into a new surname.

triple barrelling is excessive.

If you really want to have the same surname, double barrel one of your names and hers.

To pps suggesting to keep both names, thats all well and good until you have children (if thats what you want obviously) then you still have to come to an agreement for them.

DP is double barrelled, his DM and DF kept their own last names but now we can either triple barrel or lose 1 or 2 family names. Currently considering drawing straws!
However the triple barrel has been discussed so much it actually sounds quite nice...

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/9664227/Couples-fuse-surnames-in-new-trend-I-now-pronounce-you-Mr-and-Mrs-Puffin.html

In all seriousness- have you thought about using one of the surnames as a middle name- so eg.

first name Taylor Garnier
Surname Worthington-Smith

or
first name Amy Worthington
Surname Garnier-Smith

So it would still be there but not totally overwhelming for forms, airline tickets etc.

When you have kids you decide between you which name to use. It's only a name. I'm not some sort of archduke with an illustrious family history that my children must continue to write.

If you want to have the same surname then I think you need to either come up with an entirely new one or triple barrel and accept you'll both find it annoying, and so will everyone else.

Thompson-Coon-Guilor?

I think it's a bit of a shame that you'd consider relegating your mother's name but not your father's.

Damn posted too soon. Presumably for you to be double barreled to start with, your mother didn't want her name to disappear?

backintown Keeping your name on marriage is completely usual in other cultures. Hilary Clinton for example is Hillary Rodham Clinton. My Portugese relatives have their maiden name and married name and have had for generations. The daughters take the fathers name and add their married name to it when they get married. Of course, you can add whichever surname you want together or make a completely new name. Its just odd that any conversations about double barrelled names have to have someone commenting about quadruple barrelled names instead of just looking at what other countries have done for many generations.

Personally I wouldn't change your names and any potential future children I'd pass on one of each of your names, so they were double barrelled. If you really want the same name then I would drop one of yours before combining.

@Westfacing

Also in the olden days (as in when I was young) it could be a real issue at school as it made people make assumptions about your class etc.
I think assumptions are still made but they might be a different class