To be totally bereft because sister is moving?

[SharkiraSharkira]

Found out that my Dsis lost her job recently. She has decided that this is the push she needs to make some big changes and has decided that she is moving back to our home town, where all the rest of our family live, on the other side of the country.

I completely understand her decision and if I was in her position I would probably do the same but I'm just deeply deeply gutted as I have no other family here and virtually no friends.

Only person I have here now is DP and, while he is lovely, he is often busy with work and other things. I don't have anyone to hang out with now when I'm bored and dp is working. No one to chat to if I've had a horrible day at work. Obviously I know she will be there at the end of the phone but it isn't the same. She will be busy visiting her friends and working once she finds a new job.

Feel so alone

Could your DP get a job in your home town, so you could move back, too?

Where is home and how far is it from where you live now?

How far away from the hometown are you? I can imagine you'll get used to it, you'll find other things to do and people to see.

Hometown is about 300 miles away. It's not the other side of the planet but I don't drive and I can't afford to get the train more than once a month or so at the most. Realistically it's more like once every 2 months.

I know life goes on but I've been here over 5 years now and I've not made any friends. Acquaintances, but not 'real' friends. People that invite me out on a night out for a big occasion but not friends I can talk to about anything, who I can hang out with on my days off, who I could call if I needed help. No one who really 'gets' me. My opportunities to meet new people are limited, as I work a lot and live quite rurally so there is nothing in the way of clubs and things to join.

Most people round here seem to either know each other from school, through their kids, or are related. None of that is an option for me.

I don't want to move as all dp's family are here, I like my job and dp and I have just started a building project. Rent is extortionate in my hometown so it's a no go really.