When did you stop going to your parents for Xmas?

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How old were you and why did you stop?

We started to alternate when we were students (maybe 20) one set lives abroad. Then started staying at home altogether when. DD2 arrived (late 30s by then). Now one set comes to us when they feel like it (5hr drive but they take the train now), the others are too rooted in their ways to ever come to us (from a European country, 2hr flight or a massive drive) but we have gone to spend Christmas with them now the kids are a bit older and no longer get massive presents and can cope with having a second set of presents at home later.

I am mid fifties and haven't stopped yet. Do offer myself every year but mum wont let go of Xmas day yet

Mid 20's, when I moved to another continent. The year I returned I got married, and we see family around Christmas, but not over Christmas itself now.

I haven't and I'm 45. I feel lucky to have them around.

When we moved to this house 17 years ago. The DCs were small. We'd go and visit MIL and SIL's family in the morning then my parents would come to us for lunch. DBro lives around the corner so they'd walk round there for tea around 6 pm and we'd both collapse in a heap and hit the Baileys.

I'm 36 and this will be the first year I don't go to them. They're coming here instead with my brother and aunt.

When I was 11 I think. I spent every spare minute with my lovely Gran, the atmosphere at home was so horrible and it was a wonderful escape for me. Haven't got a clue what my actual family did, probably ignored each other in miserable silence.

I don't think I've ever spent Christmas without seeing them on the day. I'm an only child so they would be alone. They say they wouldn't mind and would have a takeaway curry, but I would feel bad.
DH mum is on her own so we have Christmas Day here now and both my parents and MIL come, it's lovely. It's better for DS who gets to stay st home with his toys, DH is a good cook and it means we get to have Boxing Day just the 3 of us.
We don't have to see FIL because we've culled him due to his new wife being horrible.

When I was ~27 and got with my now DH. We sometimes hosted his parents and went to my parents on boxing day. Or we didn't host and went to my parents.

Since we had children we have hosted every year and my parents and DB have mainly come too, as we thought it was important for DDs to have the stability of being at home. (PIL passed away a year before we had our DDs).

When DS was born.

I was happy, and would remain happy, to visit my parents for Christmas.

After a single horrific Christmas before we were married, I would NEVER want to visit my in laws for Christmas.

So, to avoid any discussion along the lines of 'but you went to them LAST year, it's OUR turn', we have always been at home for Christmas since DS was born. We sometimes have visitors, are sometimes on our own as a nuclear family. It's bliss.

We still go to theirs most years with OH and kids. So do my siblings and nieces/nephews.

Their house is biggest so it makes sense.

When they died

34 - but they come to us now :)

I'm 35, married, baby twins, still haven't stoppes

I was about 25. Up until then, my DP went home to his family and I went to mine. I went to mine because there was the expectation of being there so gran wasn't sad. He went to his cause he has a massive family do.
About 3 years ago, we decided to have it together instead. We had the excuse that his work meant he couldn't go home as he wouldn't get back in time for his first shift post-christmas. Now we happily have a peaceful christmas with just the two of us. I see my mum and dad sometime between christmas and new year, and he sees his family boxing day.

Never really stopped. About 18 years ago my sister had three small children so it started being easier for her to host than go to our parents. So parents and siblings started going to hers. Then other sister acquired a house and kids so we started alternating between the two sisters as there were then too many of us for elderly parents to cope with hosting. Parents now dead, but we still alternate between the sisters. I live abroad so take dh and dD back with me. Many reasons we don't do Xmas with mil, so every year with my family.

I've missed several. The first I was about 24 or 25, I think. I now tend to just go for a couple of hours and then come home to breathe a sigh of relief that it's all over for another year. I hate Christmas.

I've always gone and will this year until 3pm then going to ILs. Our first one at my own home will be in 2019 (next Christmas we'll go to ILs til 3 then to my parents) The first year of just us, my son will be almost 3 so will be his first Christmas he'll probably be excited for. Hopefully we'll have another baby that year as well. I'll be 33.

23. I'd moved away to live with now-DH and since then we've always had Christmas just the two of us. We either meet up with my parents, my brother and his girlfriend for dinner just before Christmas or we go through to their house around the 28th for lunch and presents.

DH is a postman and December is manic for him so it's nice to chill out and not run all over Scotland visiting people

We always go to my parents. They have a large house, guest bedrooms, a cook and a housekeeper. We get 3 days of full on indulgence and pampering. I'd be an idiot to volunteer my home for Christmas

I'm in my 40s and no plans of ever challenging the status quo!

39. This year they and my in-laws are coming to me.

I have cooked Christmas for my parents ever since I was 18. Reason - I can cook, my mother can't (well she can but it tastes like shit and she gets beyond stressed. It's been nearly 30 years now!

I am 32 and still go every year with DP & DS