School bullying policy

[hamstercheeks461]

Name changed because this is identifying . Not actually an aibu but posting for traffic .
My 5 year old has come home from school in tears for the third time in as many weeks . She has a slight disability where her right hand hasn't formed properly and she has missing / short fingers and other children laugh and make fun of her . Each time I've spoken to her class teacher about it she's said she will have a word but clearly it's not enough .
I should add that I've previously removed my eldest daughter from the same school for bullying that they wouldn't deal with satisfactorily. She's now refusing to go in tomorrow and I'm not going to force her but where do I go from here ? Changing schools isn't an option unfortunately

Didn't want to read and run. I would tell them in no uncertain to either deal with the bullying satisfactorily or you'll take to the board of governors, and ask for a copy of their anti-bullying policy. If that doesn't cut it, then take it to the LEA, then to the local paper as a last resort (people want to do what is best for their DC, and if a school isn't dealing reasonably well with bullying, I'm sure they'd want to know about it). Failing that, I can't see you've any other choice but to remove your DC and put them into another decent school.

On another note, could you enrol them in Jujitsu/Karate/Taekwondo/Muay Thai/other martial art, so that they can take steps to protect themselves?

I might be a bit harsh on my way of dealing with this, but I've 2 DC who are being picked on at high school.

Bless her OP. You said you spoke to the class teacher but could you go over her head? It sounds like you have done all the right things but if the class teacher is not taking it seriously or the children are not listening to her then I would probably talk to the headteacher. I wouldn't want to force my little one to go into that environment either.

Is it the same children? Has the teacher picked up on this without prompting from you?

Ask for their bullying policy and complain to the head teacher. In writing is best. That way if it isn't dealt with you can go to the Governors.

I think that you may be the one needing to have a chat with your daughter about self worth about standing up for oneself. She shouldn't allow herself to be so upset by silly words, I know that she is just little but ifs he doesn't start learning self worth now she never will and it will expose her to all kinds of problems. Likewise if she doesn't learn to stand up for herself and to shut bullies down she will find it much harder to find the courage when she gets older. If achild makes fun of her because she has funny fingers and she retorts that they have a funny face do you think they'll do it again?

Complain to someone higher up than the school. I cannot for the life of me remember where but there will be a post on the internet somewhere.

Basically you complain to the school and this other 'thing' - I really can't remember what it's called I'm so sorry, hope someone comes along who has also see the article I read- and then if the school doesn't respond and deal with it, when OFSTED come the school will get completely fucked for it.

In the meantime keep reporting and going into the school.

Ah that's really hard op, ask for a copy if the schools anti bullying policy, it may be on their website? Definitely talk to the head about it, youve given the teacher ample opportunity to address it herself.

Ttbb - i know where you're coming from but the school have a responsibility to stop bullying

Ttbb, yes it’s great for the child to have some good responses ready. You’re in danger of blaming OP and her child for not coping with the bullying.

I left out the But at the beginning of my second sentence.

This is the time for class talks about differences.

I do find this odd as children are generally so more accepting. We have a large amount of pupils in wheelchairs, for many reasons, one with amputations, yet none of the kids ever really notice, they are just so accepting of difference. (mainstream school)

If achild makes fun of her because she has funny fingers and she retorts that they have a funny face do you think they'll do it again?

Having been bullied myself, yes, it's very possible they would do it again.

We already had a class talk about differences last year and my daughter hated it because it drew more attention to her . She's refused to go in this morning so I have a meeting at 10 with the head of year but I'm not holding out much hope . Would it be unreasonable to ask that the other parents are contacted ? Because the school seem very reluctant to do that

The school sounds clueless about this issue - there must be a reason why you took your older child away.

www.bullying.co.uk/bullying-at-school/what-to-do-if-the-school-doesn-t-resolve-the-bullying/

This could help

You need to put everything in writing and ask for a written response re how they're handling it. Make sure you're written complaint notes the numerous times, with dates, you have raised the issue with the teacher and how nothing seems to have been done.

Tell them that if the issue isn't addressed satisfactorily, you will be going to the Governing Body and the LEA (or Dept of Education if it's an Academy).