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Soft play

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tiredmumsclub · 28/09/2017 15:24

Took my 2.5 year old to a soft play today to wear him out. It was toddler time so they can run freely without bigger kids barging around.

Sat with friend next to actual dedicated toddler area and there was a group of 3 mums with their kids who arrived after us sat closer to the toddler area.

2.5 can be boisterous at times and so I keep an eye on him just in case.

However I hadn’t noticed that one of the group of mums sat closer to the toddler section had left her baby (who could sit up so not very old) unattended on his own with her back to him.

2.5 was then quite boisterous with him. Probably trying to play but not understanding he’s a baby. I hadn’t seen this as I didn’t know the baby was in there. The mum of the baby brought the baby out and then she started to cry. I asked her if it was my son and she replied yes. The baby was fine.

Aibu to think she shouldn’t have left a baby unattended in a toddler area?

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MrsOverTheRoad · 28/09/2017 15:28

The Mother started to cry?

MrsOverTheRoad · 28/09/2017 15:29

YANBU about her leaving a baby in a toddler area by the way. Especially one who couldn't walk!

nuttyknitter · 28/09/2017 15:32

You're both in the wrong. You admit he's 'boisterous' so you need to supervise closely too.

Sirzy · 28/09/2017 15:35

You both should have been paying more attention

PinkHeart5913 · 28/09/2017 15:38

Your both in the wrong

She should of had an eye on the baby
You shouldn't just say well my child is "Boisterous" and lets face it you weren't watching that well if you didn't wonder where your child was when he was pestering the baby.

Hopefully you did have a word with your child about how we have to be really gentle with tiny babies?

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tiredmumsclub · 28/09/2017 15:39

Yes. The mother started to cry.

Yes had I of realised there was a baby left unattended I would have gone in with him. However as it was a toddler specific area I had no reason to be overly concerned. When I say boisterous I mean running around etc. Which is what a soft play is for.

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12point7 · 28/09/2017 15:40

Oh my god neither were in the wrong. These things happen. Nobody got seriously hurt (I know, I know, the could have Shock)and kids will be kids.

Take a breath and make like Elsa.

12point7 · 28/09/2017 15:42

And the mother has obviously got her own stuff going on - nobody cries because their child gets a little bump unless there are underlying issues.

MrsOverTheRoad · 28/09/2017 15:43

The Mother must have some issues making her sad or easily upset OP. I was a bit like that when mine were tiny.

Forget it but make sure you watch your toddler.

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tiredmumsclub · 28/09/2017 15:44

12point I’m inclined to agree with you when it comes to toddlers of a similar age however when my son was that age (approx 9 months?!) I would have sat with him in the soft play and fended off any curious toddlers.**

I did speak to my son afterwards but as she didn’t tell me for a while I’m not sure how much it would have made sense to him.* I am always conscious of him when there are babies around however I couldn’t see this particular baby as he was on the floor of the soft play.*

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GunslingerPie · 28/09/2017 15:45

She is BU. I wouldn't have left my baby fending for itself in a softplay intended for toddlers.

I have been on both sides of this- I've had a baby who was inevitably shoved about by older kids at the shitload many playgroups I took him to, but hey ho they're kids too... also as he's grown older, when at softplay he just gets excited and, well, so what if there are babies there, a 2 year old ain't gonna care

Crying though...?!Confused

Hermagsjesty · 28/09/2017 15:45

She probably cried because she was feeling guilty and worried. Did she have an older one as well? It can be hard suddenly having two to watch. I don't think either of you were in the wrong - these things happen. All kids can be overly boisterous sometimes and we all occasionally slip up in our supervision because we're tired/ distracted. I wouldn't worry.

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tiredmumsclub · 28/09/2017 15:47

I imagine there’s more to it for her as she was very upset. She wasn’t cross and we spoke politely and I apologised once she had told me what had happened.

I do watch my son but he is there to run around and burn off some steam. I always went in with him when he was younger. Especially that little.

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tiredmumsclub · 28/09/2017 15:49

Yes she did have an older child with her and I imagine she had her hands full but still I wouldn’t leave a baby on it’s own.

I am also due another in 6 weeks and so as I’ve said before am conscious of teaching him to be gentle.

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user1499786242 · 28/09/2017 15:54

This is why I avoid soft plays at all costs

EmilyReallyKnowsHerStuff · 28/09/2017 15:57

What exactly did he do to the baby?

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tiredmumsclub · 28/09/2017 16:00

As far as I could gather was trying to cuddle/pick him up/ get him to play

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