Ex and I share custody of 2yo DS, he has him roughly 2 nights a week depending on his work. He's due to have DS tomorrow night - Sat lunch time. Ex has been off work since the end of June with stress playing the system on full salary.
I got a call from DS's nursery at lunch time saying he was poorly and I needed to collect him, which I'm happy to do but it means now I have missed an afternoon's pay.
I called Ex and explained DS was poorly, I'd got a doctor's appointment for this evening and that he won't be able to go to nursery tomorrow so he'll need to have him as I can't take the time off work - in my job I don't get sick or holiday pay. Ex is off tomorrow and will be at home anyway, I will drop DS so he doesn't even have to travel.
The conversation went like this...
Ex: "So I'll have him all day and night?"
Me: "Well yeah"
Ex: "Well what if I want to go out somewhere?"
Me: "Well either take him with you or just stay in. Do you already have plans?"
Ex: "No. But what if I want to do something?"
Me: "So you're doing nothing? What's the issue then?"
Ex: "Well I don't want to be tied down the whole day"
Me: "So you expect me to take more time off work to care for our son when you're at home doing nothing? Are you for real?"
Ex: "I wanted to go to the gym"
Me: "So going to the gym is more important than caring for your son? Why don't you go this afternoon or the other 5/6 days a week you have all to yourself?"
Ex: "You're so selfish, you can't just spring him on me like this?"
Me: "HE'S YOUR SON TOO!!!!"
I'm so angry right now!!! He takes the absolute piss all the time!!!