To be friendly to, ignore or pretend as if nothing happened?

[Acunningruse]

A few months ago DH and I made an offer on a house in the village we had been looking to move to for some time. Houses rarely come up in the area and so even though parts of the house were not right for us we just wanted to be in the village so made an offer, they played hardball and negotiated almost to the asking price which we agreed.

In hindsight it wasn't the right house for us and despite having paid for survey and searches we began to have second thoughts. At few weeks later another house came on the market which ticked all our boxes. We viewed and had our offer accepted.

Understandably the first couple were upset that we had pulled out on their house. I tried to send her a message on Facebook explaining why/ apologising and offering future buyers our survey but she had blocked me.
Unfortunately their house is still on the market.

We are now due to move into our new house and children starting at the village school means we will see the couple regularly. I'm not sure how to handle this. Be friendly ? Ignore? Address the situation and apologise in person?

Thanks

I would apologise in person, it might be met with a frosty reception but at least you will have tried. I can understand the sellers being a bit miffed but that is the way of the world and disappointments happen.

Woudl it be fair to assume that the aggrieved sellers must be leaving the village since houses don't come up very often in that area? In which case they won't be around long.

I suggest you stay away. What you did was legal, whether it was moral is another story, but you didn’t do anything legally wrong. Just go about your business - am sure their house will sell eventually.

I would try to be civil say 'good morning' etc and see how this is met. It will probably still feel raw for them if their house has not sold but that is the awful thing about the housing market.

I suspect living in a village will be fraught with these sorts of uncomfortable social situations especially if you have children attending a village school (my kids go to a village school so I am aware of some of the fall outs that have happened in the village).

Good luck and it will pass in time. X

And this too shall pass. Just continue as you are. You played the game by the rules and these things happen. If they can't be civil then forget it. This sort of thing happens: All.The.Fucking.Time and if you aren't grown up to accept that then you really shouldn't be in the market.

Just be polite and civial. It happens.

Definitely don't contact on social media again though!

Thanks. Yes sounds like civil is the way forward. As a PP says when you live in a small village you just have to get on with life I guess.

It is what it is ...