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Original poster

Reply all. Fucking why?

42 replies

WhatAmIMissing · 27/09/2017 23:03

Am I missing something or making unfair busy body assumptions?

Why the fuck do I need to know that Jack is going to John's party when I'm Joe's mum?

What the hell is the reply all business shit that goes on, and why is it always a certain type of mother that engages in this.

It almost feels like they're announcing to each other that they'll be in attendance.

I'd usually assume there is some practical reason but it is always the same 'inner circle' or wannabe mum that does this shit. And, it's always the gatherings where parents clearly invite for popularity reasons over their children's actual friends.

Why do they do this? Are there any logical reasons that I'm overlooking?

Am I being harsh or are they the need to get a life twats that I think they are?

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IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes · 27/09/2017 23:07

This is another reason I give wide birth at school gates and not just because I anti social Grin

StillIInDenial · 28/09/2017 07:02

Do you mean sending a reply all email?

NellWilsonsWhiteHair · 28/09/2017 07:05

I dunno, I don't see the problem. DS quite likes to know who else is going (and you can't generally rely on 5 year olds to tell each other that honestly...)
Like 99% of other irrelevant spammy emails I receive, the delete button deals with it.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim · 28/09/2017 07:06

Deeply annoying behaviour, both in the professional and personal contexts.
There is a particular type who will do this to announce attendance and also drop a remark about some social event she was at with the main addressee to which others weren't invited. Gobshitery.

Gorgosparta · 28/09/2017 07:07

Out schiol dont have a en email thing going on thank god.

However people do, do this at work. Its infuriating. Usually it comes down to people being dicks or not thinking.

HerSymphonyAndSong · 28/09/2017 07:07

It's not a mum thing, it's a people thing. The same thing happens at work, it is infuriating

marmiteloversunite · 28/09/2017 07:07

Is it so parents can share drop offs and pick ups? I have teenage kids. So happy to be beyond this. Now I don't know where they are going or who is going to be there at all! Wink

underneaththeash · 28/09/2017 07:12

If its useful info I don't mind so much, the ones I do hate are when someone asks if they've seen John's swimming trunks and then some idiot replies all " no we haven't seen them, hope they turn up!"

FarmerYumi · 28/09/2017 07:14

Yeah we get this in my work.

Mass email to all: has anyone seen the title deeds for Mr Smith? Can't find them, can you please all check your desks to see they haven't been put there accidentally?

Then follows about 25 "reply all" responses: nope, not here...

Therealslimshady1 · 28/09/2017 07:15

My phone, by itself, changed the default from "reply" to "reply all", only noticed this week. I have been replying to all for months probably, without noticing (on phone)

ToTheCrystalDome · 28/09/2017 07:17

It was the frickin' Reply All button being used by idiots that brought the entire NHS email system to its knees a few months back!

AdalindSchade · 28/09/2017 07:20

On our system you have to deliberately pick reply all so people are doing it on purpose but they still do it. It’s thick.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 28/09/2017 07:22

this is why I always bcc to email lists, no one knows who else is on the list then.

Minesril · 28/09/2017 07:26

Yes it's annoying when people do it at work especially when you shouldnt have been copied in in the first place! Loads of pointless emails.

I get more annoyed when i create a meeting for laods of people and nobody seems to realise that there's an 'accept do not send a response' button...

Jux · 28/09/2017 07:57

Twitchiness? I did it once because my hand twitched. Blush

supersop60 · 28/09/2017 07:57

On my personal email there's a choice of button - reply OR reply all if it's a group email. Do business emails operate differently?

Rubberduckies · 28/09/2017 08:09

I'd forgotten about the nhs reply all. At the time it was awful. The day after when I could read all the idiots replying was pretty hilarious. The original email was a 'testing' type email. One of the replies was simply 'didn't work' which made me laugh out loud. What an understatement!

permatiredmum · 28/09/2017 08:15

Maybe so that if others need a lift share they no who is going?

Original poster
WhatAmIMissing · 28/09/2017 09:00

The lift thing would be logical, except they'll all be there kissing Queen Bee's ass

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WhatKatyDidnt · 28/09/2017 09:03

The real problem (and I use that word loosely Grin) is that the invitation should have been sent with its recipients blind copied.

alltouchedout · 28/09/2017 09:08

I sometimes do reply all at work otherwise every other fucker who received the original email will contact me separately to ask why I am doing about the issue. And once years ago, purely to annoy a hated middle manager who kept hitting reply all to ask people to stop using reply all, we were replying to all to say we would of course stop doing it. Immature but oh so satisfying, she almost burst.

Fidoandacupoftea · 28/09/2017 09:18

I completely agree it is so so annoying and a type of performance parenting. The school mums have a whatsapp group and I came home from a long work day to a hundred msgs yesterday. I have to go through all in case there is something important. Most of the stupid posts were from the inner circle talking about kids growing up and bloody nostalgia.

TSSDNCOP · 28/09/2017 09:22

Well in my case, it's because I've got a whizzy new mind of its own laptop and did it completely by mistake to a dept of 150 people. Also I hadn't even finished typing the message so I looked really rude too. It was on Tuesday and I'm still cringing.

Longdistance · 28/09/2017 09:26

I used to get this at work. Emails that had nothing to do with me, and ccing me in everything 🙄 I wonder why I left that company?

CakeOffBakeOff · 28/09/2017 09:30

Because people are stupid or selfish or both.

Happens at work too. Do you really not have the wit to distinguish between the reply button and the reply all button?