A week ago, my husband lost his job. It was totally unexpected and he is understandably crushed. To his credit, he has not stood idly by expecting the world to bend towards him - he has been updating his resume and sending it out to all his contacts, etc. He hasn't been sleeping and is obviously very stressed. It is the nature of performance industries that these things sometimes happen regardless of your talent, ability, etc.... Anyhow, since then, I have been running the house, caring for him, caring for the kids (who are of course now on holidays) trying to keep things quiet so that he can focus on what he needs to do, etc... I have organised for some of his friends to take him out for some drinks, I have organised some fun things for him to do that he wouldn't organise for himself, etc... I have held his hand and told him that we have been through much worse and had more at stake in the past and come through it stronger. It's all true.
Meanwhile, I have moved my kids away from my parents for his job - to the other side of the planet. My dad died after a horrible three year illness while we were there, and my mother died after a seven year illness within weeks of us arriving back in the country. My kids are now being educated in English - so I can help with school work again - and they are living in their own culture for the first time. They are happy, I am happy - finally meeting some fabulous people here and making friends. I don't want to have to move unless I really need to - BUT I WILL...
My point is - AIBU for him to ask me how I'm feeling at the moment? Do I have to do all the emotional heavy lifting? When am I allowed to lose my shit and stress out?