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To think that this is bullying?

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CorbynsBumFlannel · 26/09/2017 23:01

One of my dc has come home today and told me something that has concerned me. To get the (not so) stealth boast out of the way she is one of those kids who is never in trouble, high achiever, always picked to represent the the school, honest and reliable etc so basically I have no doubt she's telling me the truth.
Her teacher is also the senco so she has a different teacher for days she is out of class. Today was the first day they had this teacher.
There are a group of boys in dd's class who have various Sen who are allowed to do an activity of their choice for a short while at the end of each lesson if they have worked hard and behaved well.
The teacher announced today that she wouldn't be doing this on the days she took the class as she didn't think it was fair that the other children worked hard and didn't get rewarded. She then said to the class that anyone who didn't agree with her should raise their hand. My dd told me that her and 2 of her friends and also some of the children with Sen raised their hands but no-one else.
Aibu to find it really sad that a teacher feels it isn't fair that children who find it really hard to stay on task for the whole session are rewarded for their efforts? My dd isn't one of the children who gets this reward but, as she said to me this evening, she doesn't need it.
Dd also told me that this same teacher had some of the bottom group maths class finishing off work in the classroom and told them that the reason they're in bottom group is because they're not good enough at maths to be in year 6!
Aibu to think this is awful? Dd told me she is going to speak to her regular teacher tomorrow about it but I'm not sure if that's a good idea as I don't want her to get on the wrong side of this teacher!

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MrsST · 26/09/2017 23:09

My opinion after what your DD has told you, I as a parent would be taking this up with her usual teacher. They probably are unaware of what is happening in their classroom when they aren't there. It's really lovely that your child is compassionate that she wants to help her fellow classmates.

coffeekittens · 26/09/2017 23:17

Your DD sounds lovely, well done to her and the other children for supporting their peers.

You need to have a chat with the regular teacher and possibly the head about this, the not regular teacher sounds vile.

BackforGood · 26/09/2017 23:23

No, I don't think it is bullying, but I think it is poor teaching. Your dd sounds lovely and very mature for her age. I would be proud that she is going to speak to the regular teacher, and I would also tell her I was proud that she was doing that.

CorbynsBumFlannel · 26/09/2017 23:24

I have told her I am really proud of her. She has a sibling with Sen as does one of her friends so they are aware about kids having different needs. She said she was scared to raise her hand though. I think the teacher saying anyone who doesn't agree with me should raise their hand may not have been meant as a genuine invitation to disagree!

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Ttbb · 26/09/2017 23:50

Yes. That's just plain mean! Who tells children who are trying to get better at maths that they are so bad that they shouldn't be in their own yeargroup?!

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