aibu to love this blog post about why formula feeding is brilliant?!

[girlwithasecretsmile]

I think it's great to have a post talking about good things about formula for once but part of me feels bad for laughing so much.

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It's ironic that the only place I ever see people sniping and bitching about breast v formula is on mumsnet...

Because just saying I find formula great doesn't really explain anything does it? Why shouldn't she be allowed to say why she personally found bf fucking awful? She hasn't said it will be fucking awful for everyone.

This fed is best thing is a crock of shit. Fed is best end of. Whatever works for you is best. Not starving to death is best.

I feel compelled to add to such threads and I work in public health and if everyone it's really important to defend breastfeeding as it is such an important public health issue.
I would never belittle or try and guilt trip someone who chooses formula but I think everyone should understand the benefits and risks involved in their feeding choices, preferably before they make them.

Our society works against breastfeeding at every turn, the public health message is dwarfed by advertising and marketing messages.

Yanbu...it's a good and honest article. I breastfed the first two but with a tiny age gap between 2 and 3 I just couldn't face it again so soon. The lack of sleep, the thrush, the mastitis, the pain, the inconvenience and the unrelenting bind...nah, my sanity couldn't take it. No regrets - bottle feeding was amazing! SO much easier.

Can't say pretty bras or strangers opinions of maybe seeing a sliver of boob factored into my decision the father of DS1 and ex mil put tremendous pressure on me to bottle feed complete with shaming "ew that's perverted. Your tits will be saggy trash now". And I got tremendous pressure from the hospital to breastfeed. In the end, I found breastfeeding worked for me and my babies and I appreciate I'm lucky in that respect. Everyone's so different.
But some of her reasons are shamey and mean.

girlwith, bf mums are s bit damned if they do and damned if they don't though. If they say bf was easy for them, they're smug. If they do what this woman does and highlights all the ways bf can be challenging, they get had a go at for showing off their martyrdom and exhorted to "just stop moaning, give him a bottle and get your life back".

If bf mums talk about formula AT ALL it's like lighting the blue touch paper. Even talking about the proven factual benefits of bf is considered "shaming" and bitchy. It's like some sort of omerta is required to remain on team 'Mumma'

The bf/ff debate will rage on and on. I think if the blog post was thought provoking, or balanced it would have more of an impact.
The whole 'isn't formula fucking great' just gives major eye roll from the beginning.

Formula is great in the respect that it keeps babies fed and alive when people have problems with breastfeeding.

Why do you have to pick sides? Unless you've spent pregnancy hiding under a rock you know that breastfeeding is a better start for baby but women have the right to choose and be respected in their choice. I breastfed and loved it. My best friend formula fed and loved it. She wouldn't let anything but homemade food past his lips and my dd had eaten McDonalds chips before she was one. We just do what we do and make choices that work for individuals.

FF is more mainstream so I don't know why she writes like the injured party. I had so many 'you're still breastfeeding' comments that I tuned out. No one would bat an eyelid if it was a bottle.

My nearly 3-year -old is still having mummy milk a couple of times a day. And you know what? Anyone who thinks it's 'weird' can fuck right off. To the extent that if they said it to my face I would assault them. This country has the worst stats on breastfeeding in the world. Surely anything that detracts from encouraging breastfeeding should be seen as negative?

I needed this after my first baby was born and I was in a black hole on the brink of postpartum depression because everywhere I looked was breastfeeding propaganda

I've said this a million times since-

There is no right way to parent, only the right way for you. All a baby needs to be healthy and happy, is healthy and happy parents.

It's refreshing to see someone making good out of a topic so frowned upon and whoever that woman is, I applaud her!

Totally agree with you Lana 👍🏼👍🏼 I found breastfeeding ok, painful at first but then eased off and we were away....shit...no sorry I can’t say that I look like I’m being smug and automatically putting down women who ff!!!! I bf for 7 months before my periods came back, I got so much shit for it. Baby hasn’t put weight on = my fault. Baby won’t sleep all the way through = my fault. Baby needs to feed 2 hourly = my fault. Baby upset = my fault.... like formula is the key to fixing every one of the baby’s problems!!!! In my experience I hear nothing but great stuff about formula feeding!!!!

It's funny isn't it Dixie - I related to pretty much all of it and found it very candid.

YANBU I only started using MN recently and am so glad I wasn't reading it when they were babies. I would have become neurotic I think with worry about how many things I was supposedly doing wrong.
I find it quite upsetting when a new mother posts on here saying that her baby is not thriving or sleeping. So many people really push them to carry on BF despite it clearly not being enough. That baby could potentially be really low on food. If they were getting enough food they would be more content. I don't imagine they would recommend withholding nourishment from anyone else so why a baby?
Expect to get flamed!!

As someone who wants to breast feed but I know there are issues involved which may not be to do with me or my baby, this is so assuring to read.

What a load of nasty bollocks.
Can you imagine if someone did a "here's why breastfeeding is so great" smugathon in the same style? It's very "look at meeeee".

Honestly, just feed your kids however you want. No one really cares.

She very much comes across like she feels guilty. It can't be nice to feel that much anger over her choices. She did get to wear nice bras, I'm not sure what she's so upset about really

Can you imagine if someone did a "here's why breastfeeding is so great" smugathon in the same style? It's very "look at meeeee".

They do.. all the time. There are plenty of blogs about how fucking great breastfeeding Is and how shit you are if you use formula

I know so many mothers who tried so hard to BF, but for whatever reason it didn't work out.

This is talking a lot of guff about the inconvenience of BF and how it makes you look frumpy in your nursing bra...yeah, that's a great reason to not BF

kimchi if you want to BF, there is support available:

Www.kellymom.com is a good place to start for quick, internet-based advice.

Lots of MN posters have lots of advice and experience and would be happy to tell you what’s normal with BF and what’s not.

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She can voice that all she wants, it's why the fuck she feels the need to make breast feeders out to be boring, saggy, slave-to-baby boob flashers that I have an issue with. She doesn't describe things as if that's how it was for her, she says it as if that's how it is, full stop. I shared some of my experiences to show that what she was saying is not fact, and what were negative points to her are not for loads of people. i.e. The breast feeding snuggled up watching box sets. It really is the reality for plenty of people.

What is a great reason then?

Why do you even need a reason? Can't you just choose not to?

But at the end of the day it's only her opinion..