A colleague/friend from work used to tell me about her violent relationship.. for months I told her to leave and advised her on how to go about it. They have a 3 year old son together and were living together.
One day she decided enough was enough and she wouldn't go back home to him. She picked up her son from nursery and made herself homeless. I offered to put her up for a few nights to help her out. 2 months later and she is still here. I've not asked her to contribute towards rent or bills, which I'm fine with, my issue comes with her son being around mine constantly (my son will be 4 next month).
From the moment they moved in, my sons behaviour has gone downhill. He was kicked out of his summer camp on his fourth day and has been getting into trouble at school. They've made a referral to the school psychologist because they're concerned about his behaviour.
I've helped my friend out with childcare over summer, while working a full time job. As she hadn't sorted a nursery place for her little boy, I told her to apply to my sons nursery as well as a few others. She never did, I did the application for her. Didn't expect her to be offered a place so soon, and didn't know how bad my sons behaviour would get. AIBU to be annoyed that they will be in the same nursery class together? They've been stuck together over the summer holidays,my son has had minimal time alone with me (I've helped her with childcare), and they've been living together for 2 months.
How do I go about telling her I don't want her son around mine at school? They should be rehoused in the borough in the next 2 weeks and his nursery place is due to start the following week. At this point I need to look out for my son and what's best for him?