to be fed up of people who just HAVE to fill a silence?

[BlueNeighbourhood]

I've been at work today in a room with four people, three of us are happy sat listening to the radio, answering the phone when needs be and working.

But one woman just HAS to fill every silence with conversation or the dreaded 'This computer isn't working again' line. It's doing everyone's head in today and is also mega distracting. Everytime the room goes again quiet because y'know...we're working, she starts talking inane crap.

I once watched a TV programme who said that filling silences is very childlike and like someone is seeking approval and attention.

Anyone else got any coping tips for this? Other than putting headphones in which I can't really do, along with saying shut the hell up!

It's called being friendly I think. Yabu imo

I sympathise! I have a lady I work with who is absolutely lovely but will not shut up. I can't concentrate. No amount of hinting works either!

YANBU it is immature and i can't take people seriously who do this. I nip it in the bud for any newbies by point blank ignoring it until they have to walk over to my desk and I look at them perplexed and say 'I'm working like literally in the middle of something can you send an email and I will read it when I'm finished? I can't talk right now' aka please piss off and shut. Up.

Ps I normally work from home and I love it - for this reason. I get so much more done without these mindless interruptions. I really reSent it actually - someone wasting my time talking shit unless its a colleague im friendly with. If its just too childish to be quiet and do their work I get annoyed. One day a week in the office is enough for me.

YANBU. It really pisses me off when people can't just be quiet for 5 minutes! I know several people who just have to keep garbling on about fuck all, no matter how much you're trying to concentrate. It can be really distracting at work, or if you are at home - or out - and someone won't stop gabbling on.

It does smack of attention seeking, but I think it's just that some people feel awkward with silences. I love them personally, and end up willing people to STFU! Even my husband has spells where he just won't STFU, and no matter what I am doing (surfing the net, trying to read, trying to write something,) I just end up putting it down, sighing heavily, and just listening to what he is going on about. Because when he won't go/can't go more than 60 seconds without chirping on about something, I simply can NOT do anything that takes any concentration.

Sometimes it's cool and I don't mind chatting, and there are times when he sits quiet and is doing something himself, but when he won't shut up when I am doing something, it fucks me right off.

Problem is - as someone said above - some people just talk bollocks anyway, and you just end up having to switch off and zone out, hoping they will take the hint. (Not talking about my hubby here btw! I mean other people.)

A friend recently got a new girlfriend. I met her for the first time last week . Non stop talking I had to go outside for a break . All about her no listening to anyone else . She seems lovely but Jesus give someone else a chance to speak

I can't bear people who do this!

BE QUIET, FFS.

Some people feel the need to provide a moment-by-moment narration of their lives. I was working away quietly today (short-term office-based job, THANK FUCK) and a woman came into check her pigeon hole. I swear she described her every move. "Just heading over to check my mail. Oh, Tom's got a lot of post, hasn't he? Look at that! Right, where's mine. Oh, here it is. I'll just... Ooh, look...." etc. etc.

STFU!

Even worse is the people who react to emails OUT LOUD and wait for somebody to ask what's going on. I just don't respond which is even more awkward and unbearable.

ding
Annoying colleague - 'oh you must be kidding me'
Rest of the room sits in awkward silence
ding
Annoying colleague - 'this is an absolute joke'
Everyone continues to sit in silence.
ding
Annoying colleague - 'oh my god this is crazy'
Silence continues.

Just tell us what the problem is, or sit there. It's the work equivalent of the 'fuming babes' Facebook status.

This isn't just one person either, I've worked with a few people who do this.

@messyhouse I used to work with someone who went to the toilet a lot - I don't know if she was brazen or sick but the toilet was right by my desk so she used to go in there, shit her heart out loudly whilst reading emails 'omg?!!! Seriously? Sigh. Won't be going home on time tonight then - cunts.' Then walk out leaving a vile smell everywhere leaving me going 'OMG SERIOULY???!!!' At the smell and spraying air freshener everywhere furiously meanwhile she just looked on blankly back at her desk. It was very weird. I hated her so much and she knew it but I secretly always admired her nerve.

My mum is like this.

There are people who feel awkward with total silent from people

Ugh. Bane of my life, these people.

I have just had my first work from home day - a once a week arrangement. I swear I got three times as much done without the idiots in my open plan office jabbering on all the time, yet I can guarantee I will get flack tomorrow for the privilege of silently concentrating on my work.

It especially winds me up that the people in my office have such a peurile sense of humour - I'm all for a laugh, but it's like a carry on film in there. The worst offenders seem to have literally zero sense of when it is or isn't appropriate to speak, and these are all people in their forties.

my teenage daughter.

I often have to retreat to my bedroom to escape for a while. but she appears in my room after 3 minutes and starts chatting again.