To have given him the finger?

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I have been a complete soft touch in the past. Don't know what has came over me recently but i have became quite an angry little person and no longer suffer fools or tolerate ignorance or bad manners from people.
The car park at work was full, not helped by the building work they are having done which means limited spaces. I parked behind my colleagues car in another car park. I finish work and come back to find a bmw has blocked me in and sandwiched me in between his car and my colleagues car.
I could see heads bobbing up and down in a window in the building opposite my car. I sat there for ten minutes trying to ring my colleague to ask if they could come out as this idiot has blocked me in. Ten whole minutes later one of the bobbing heads comes out and starts moving his car. He just looked at me. Didn't apologise for blocking me in. I drove away and gave him the finger and drew a big dirty look.
In the past I would never have done this and just let it go. So I want to know aibu for giving him the finger and letting him know I was angry or should I have just gotten on with it and let it go?

We need a diagram. It's not very mature, obviously, but I bet it felt good!

As mumsnet is the land of folks who will tell you to fuck Off just for having the temerity to knock on their door or tell you you look nice, I suspect not only will you be seen as reasonable but more you didn’t go far enough and should have also shouted fuck off at him after knocking his car out the way with yours .

I'd have spoken to him and asked for an explanation and apology.

Diagram

He deserved it.

I too have recently become a bit of an angry ant. It feels good not to be a pushover.

Good diagram!

Excellent diagram OP. I don't really think YWBU. If he'd at least apologised or acknowledged you it would be different, but to block you in and be rude!

You parked on a car park that was not your work place car park. Is it possible the BMW was pissed off with you as you parked where you should not? If you were entitled to park where you did I'm with you!

It's not very professional of you to be giving people the finger in a work car park

Sorry misread that

What tuttifrutti said.

It's not that I'm not allowed to park there but more you belong in the other car park so fuck off type thing. They have specific bays with the company name on. I parked at the side of a pavement but not obscuring anyone. There was a line of cars purely because there just isn't enough space in the other car park. My company should be dealing with it really.
I thought it was rude and inconsiderate to block me in especially as I had the school run to do and he could have potentially made me late to pick up my child.
There were empty parking bays he could have parked in.
I felt I was a bit rude in giving him the finger but at the time my temper got the better of me.

Bobbing heads

People get funny about work car parks. He probably always parks there and thinks it's "his" space.
I suspect you have now started a car park space war which will progress to leaving PA notes on windscreens, cars strategically blocked in,name calling and such like.

A You vs The Bobbing Heads scenario.

Of course YANBU, he did deserve confrontation too. Loving the diagram too

I dont disagree with doing it. But i would personally advise against it - you never know what kind of person they are, they could be very aggressive and giving them the finger could result in road rage, violence etc against yourself. Stay safe.

I thought I'd be ok because a lot of my colleagues park there everyday so thought I would join them. In saying that they get there a lot earlier as they are full time so there before me and the other work people. My car also stands out as it's lime green so they can identify that's it's not normally there.
Will be avoiding it from now on but in a legal sense I am entitled to park there. The companies have their parking bays and I'm not parking in them or blocking them. There are no yellow lines either so they can't raise a complaint other than making the car park busier.

Another vote for the diagram. I think it is a contender for 'best MN diagrams ever'

Another vote for the diagram. I think it is a contender for 'best MN diagrams ever'

Do you feel good about having given him the finger?

I can't say whether it was right or wrong. Sounds like he deserved it but do you feel you compromised your moral high ground? Do you think he'll change his behaviour? Was it enough to just vent your feelings?
Are you worried about how angry you get?

I am inclined to anger and sometimes it feels really good to not be 'reasonable'. But sometimes I think it's a sign I 'm stressed and need to do something different or I'm limping from one aggressive feeling to another. Being assertive feels better for me

Wise words Yoda there is a difference between being assertive/not tolerating rudeness and losing your temper and reacting aggressively. The first usually leaves you feeling better about yourself.

I suppose the man moving the car expected you to say something along the lines of "thanks for moving, we're having building works our side so I assumed I could park here..?" and then would have apologised, who knows?

You do have to pick your battles. Frequent angry disputes are exhausting and leave you pumped full of useless adrenaline, just adding to your stress in the long run.
It's done now though and no point stewing on it.

Well I scowled at a chap this morning for having the audacity for going the wrong way (one way system) in the hospital car park. He then wound down his window and gave me his ticket which had lots of time on it. I felt quite guilty but definitely wouldn't flick the bird, you just never know...

Diagram 10/10

Last time I gave someone the finger when I was in the car he tried to run us off the road and it ended up in court. With a guilty verdict (not me!)