Advice needed

[walkingout]

Hi insomniac MNers.
Quick post with a name change.
I've been in a emotionally abusive relationship for 10+ years and I've never had the courage to leave.
But today after another argument blown out of proportion, something had finally clicked.
Wtf am I still doing here?! We have a few kids, youngest is a few weeks old.
Now dp is away with work for 3 nights tomorrow, should I pack my shit and just leave or change the locks? The house is both our names as I put down the deposit and he pays the mortgage/bills. I feel like leaving with no contact would be easier on me, but I can't uproot the kids from school and why the fuck should have to start again?

What do you think would be the safest thing to do for you and your kids?

He's the doting father when it comes to them but with me, I'm treading on eggshells constantly. The kids have never witnessed his behaviour. It's just a sly dig here and there, he normally picks a fight with me early morning when they're asleep or late at night.

I would be careful about changing the locks while he's paying the mortgage- he may decide to just stop untill there's an order in place.

Ring Women's Aid for advice.

www.womensaid.org.uk/