For not wanting to stay overnight at works doo

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Colleagues are arranging a works doo for Xmas. I was up for a night out thinking it was going to be fairly local so I could have a meal, few drinks and a laugh with colleagues and get a taxi home when I want.
Everyone have decided the work doo is going to be over an hour's commute away in the train, overnight in a hot.
I don't want to go for the following reasons

• don't want to travel home with a hangover
• don't want to share a room with colleagues as I know I won't be able to sleep for feeling awkward or snoring
• I suffer from ibs and if I get a flare up I will be stuck there holding in farts all night or even worse letting them go and getting a name for myself
• I can't just leave when I want to leave, I will need to go back to the hotel room.

I feel like the only person who feels like this and everyone else is up for it. Aibu to say i can't make it or am I being a miserable old fart?

I wouldn't feel too bad about not going if that's what you want to do. Ok everyone's up for it now but it's only September! You can be pretty much guaranteed that as it gets closer and people start to feel the expense of Christmas shopping and other nights out there'll be a few dropping out.

Ive got to the point where I generally just say no from the off. These work nights at Christmas just seem to turn into an expensive and time consuming extravaganza. You start out thinking you're off to the local Indian in jeans and a nice top, few drinks in the pub and home to your own bed. Then you blink and it's turned into a posh restaurant possibly requiring a new outfit, everyone's suddenly getting their hair, nails and make up done and you're paying extortionate prices to share a hotel room with an acquaintance so no matter how desperate you are for a shite you try to hold on until you get home .

Ugh. It sounds dreadful.

Gads, that sounds dreadful, I'd definitely say no.

I also don't know what a doo is.

Another thing... Why do some people insist on making things so fucking complicated? It could have been a fun night in town, at a nice restaurant with good drinks, but instead it's now this big production with train rides and shared hotel rooms. Again, ugh.

I wish I could unread the word 'doo'. Why on earth do people on here write that. That's not a word.

Doo?

Why do you call it that?

The last time I shared a room with a 'stranger' was A level biology field trip.

It was ok and fun then, but wouldn't repeat it.

struggle to share with DW and DC these days

We just bring mince pies in at Christmas - that suits us..

My eyes, my eyes

Surprised that nobody has come up with "no is a complete sentence" yet. Just turn it down if it's not your thing!

"I'm so sorry, but I can't."
"No, I'm afraid it's not possible."
"Unfortunately I can't make it."

No excuses, no reasons, just - no.

Mind you, I went on a works do whilst in Canada, and we had sleigh rides in the snow - proper sleighs, not on wheels..

i luffs Canada

This was the kind of thing:

Do only has one o. A doo is a Scottish pigeon. I'd LOVE a work's pigeon.

I have politely declined even if it means I'm a kill joy.
Never realised people got offended over words that were spelt incorrectly. I thought I was a kill joy until the grammar police came along.

1 - Just say you can't as you have something else planned early the next morning and you cannot possibly be late.

2 - What is 'doo'?

3 - If you are uncomfortable lying to them re not staying over - just say you don't want to go.

ah sorry cross-post op - spelling mistake on 'doo'.

I have a well paid career, a house, a family.

I don't share a bedroom with anyone other then my partner.
TBH i only share a bathroom with immediate family on a time limited basis.

No way would I go if I had to share with a colleague

YANBU

If you can easily get home after a meal/few drinks then go ahead, or just tell them staying over doesn't work for you.

I live a distance away from our works xmas do. Ten years ago I would have fussed and stressed about this problem, trying not to offend and wondering what others would think about not staying over. That's the advantage of being a certain age. You care far less what others think. I'm driving this year so I can sleep in my own bed, and being even more of a miserable fart than you.

Yanbu, it's good you declined. How did they take it?

Is everyone local though? One guy at work used to get the royal hump that the Xmas do was in London, a commute for everyone but we were happy to do. He wanted local and didn't get that his local aka local to work was a bigger commute for everyone else and the bad public transport meant some would have to drive and leave early.

I never go to work parties, Xmas or otherwise, since they are clearly the work of the devil and should be avoided. Dreadful people, doing dreadful things with too much booze (or worse, not enough). I don't care if people think I'm a miserable old git, I always so no.

And as for sharing a bedroom - what is this a school trip? No way.