My dd is 9. She was very confident when she was little but she's been bullied twice since she's been in school. The first time, I moved her to a different school and the second, just last term and was particularly nasty, the 'bully' left. So dd is quite shy and has low self esteem. I'm doing all I can think of to help her - martial arts, youth club, time just me and her, etc.
She goes to a very small school in a rural area, just 9 in her year. She hasn't really got any friends at school. There is another child who is quite unkind to my dd. This isn't my dd's imagination, I've heard this girl and I've put her in her place. She's very critical of my dd, dd can do nothing right. Other parents have approached me to tell me this and that their child has told them about this girl's unkind behaviour towards my dd. I've told the school and the girl's mother. The other mother agrees it's a problem but nothing has changed. I've told school that I'm encouraging my dd to assert herself and I expect the staff to back her up. For what it's worth, it's possible this girl may have some SN. I understand this and I'm sympathetic as I have DS with high functioning ASD who's 14. But I'm worried about my dd and how to help her.
Is there anything else you can think of? I have no support network and my own mum died some years ago. So I'm turning to the wisdom of mumsnet.