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To go on holiday on my own

36 replies

OldPony · 25/09/2017 11:23

I was supposed to be going on holiday this Friday with my DP but sadly we have split up.

I've checked and I can't be refunded the flights or the apartment. I've offered it to him but he doesn't want to go. I sort of want to go to get a week of sun before the shitty winter, but I'm a people person and really quite crap on my own. I want to be strong and go for it, but also thing wtf would I take myself to a country where I know no one when I'm heartbroken and miserable.

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FlowerPowerPotter · 25/09/2017 19:44

I'm on holiday on my own at the moment - posting this from the beach front in Malta where I've just enjoyed a nice dinner and I'm now sitting with a(nother) glass of wine.

It's obviously different in that I planned on going alone (as no one else was available and I desperately needed to relax after a very stressful few months at work) but I'm loving it. A little lonely at times but then I post photos on Facebook and enjoy the ensuing conversation with my lovely friends and family!

I'd say go and have as lovely a time as you can, good luck.

FlowerPowerPotter · 25/09/2017 19:45

I'm on holiday on my own at the moment - posting this from the beach front in Malta where I've just enjoyed a nice dinner and I'm now sitting with a(nother) glass of wine.

I'd say go and have as lovely a time as you can, good luck.

Branleuse · 25/09/2017 19:50

i would love this. Noone to make you do things you dont want to do

donajimena · 25/09/2017 19:51

Please do it! I did it for the same reasons. My relationship broke up and I still had the holiday. I felt sad and I think I may have cried but I also made a friend.
I did end up in my room early on in the evening but I had G & T to keep me company along with trashy magazines, books and Spanish infomercials. I also love being able to say that I have holidayed alone and I can post on threads such as this!

bananafanana1 · 25/09/2017 19:54

You should do it. It'll be great, and sunny!!

Chat nonsense to people to get the conversation going, be brave!

It's a different holiday travelling alone but it's worth it!

donajimena · 25/09/2017 19:55

Fwiw I have a partner now and I love going on holiday with him but when I was on the single holiday I had so much more freedom (as in sightseeing and eating out) please go. The worst that could happen is you could feel miserable. You'd feel miserable here too and lamenting the cost of an unused holiday

Awks · 25/09/2017 19:55

You might well be miserable at times but you will be SO proud of yourself when you've got home and processed it, that it will leap you forward hugely in terms of getting over him. Feel the fear and do it anyway is what I'm thinking. You can do this.

Notevilstepmother · 25/09/2017 19:58

Go.

There is something so liberating about going on holiday on your own, you can do exactly what you want, do lots or do nothing. You never get annoyed waiting for someone else to get ready, you can stay or leave when you want.

Enjoy the sunshine, enjoy leisurely breakfasts, and coffee shops.

Trills · 25/09/2017 19:59

Definitely go.

You might have a brilliant time, you might have an OK time, you might have a time that is sometimes brilliant and sometimes a bit crap.

But you'll be proud of yourself, and it'll be better than not being on holiday.

morningtoncrescent62 · 25/09/2017 20:05

I hope you have a fantastic time, OP, and congratulations on making the decision.

Top tip from a seasoned solo holidaymaker: take a knife and fork with you. Dining alone in the evenings doesn't always feel too comfortable even though in reality no-one's looking at you and judging but lunches in cafes or by the pool are usually fine. So it's sometimes better to think of lunch as your main meal, and be able to fix yourself a picnic in the evening if you don't feel like dining solo.

LouiseBrooks · 25/09/2017 20:10

I'm holidaying alone in the Med right now. My family have recently been through a very traumatic time and I've been finding things very difficult but this week away has helped. People have been friendly and I'm eating, reading and sleeping lots! I'm not in the sort of place where there are lots of things to do but I've holidayed alone before and am happy to just mooch around town.

Take books, download stuff onto your iPad or whatever and go on organised trips as well as sunbathing. Honestly, the worst that can happen is that no one speaks to you and I can tell you from experience, that will not happen!

Just go!

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