AIBU to think this is cheeky as hell

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OH is notorious for making friends with just about everyone. The other night a friend of his takes him along to a small house party and he befriends the hosts. He accidentally leaves his glasses behind.

The next day he tells them he left the glasses and they say they'll come and drop them off, sounds lovely!

Except the lady and her boyfriend turn up with her 2 kids and teenage niece in tow and invite themselves in. I'm in the kitchen at this point and OH is too kind to turn them all away please be meaner next time

They have a female cat that is very similar to one of our cats so they're gushing over him saying how they want them to have kittens together. Didn't bother me too much though I'm not keen myself.

Then the kids start saying they want to take our cat home! (they are about 8 & 11 so old enough to be polite) And the bf starts talking to our cat and saying 'oh you want to come home with us don't you'!!! And I then later find out he secretly asked OH if we would sell our cat to them! OH met them the day before and this was my first time meeting them!!!! (not to mention I'd never do that to my cat!)

They proceed to stay in our home for a few hours watching Netflix, making comments about our cat and inside jokes about our other cat in front of us (wtf?) despite OH saying bye to them already! They also kept making strange pointed remarks about items in our home like 'oh thats nice' 'you know I really like those things too'. In the end my mum 'called' with an emergency and we had to go. Only then did they leave.

AIBU or is this taking the fucking biscuit

Their behaviour was certainly very odd, and your DH was definitely to blame for letting them in, I can't believe there really are people who are so socially inept as to invite themselves into the house of virtual strangers and not take any number of hints.

I'm so sorry about your loss, OP, no wonder you're feeling so fragile.

How rude are these people! Next time keep them on the door step never let them in! People like this will never get the hint.

Cats hadn't been spayed yet as they're 2 male indoor cats and ashamed to say money has been a bit tight.

Its like £50 to get a male neutered.

Get them done FFS.

Why are people giving the OP a hard time about not getting the cats done? They're indoor cats, so there's no big pressure to get it done. £100 for the two cats can be a lot of money when things are tight! Blimey

Its like £50 to get a male neutered.

Get them done FFS.

What an incredibly rude and insensitive comment to someone who has just posted that they have lost their baby

OP. Tougher stance, next time.

A £100 is a lot of bloody money to some people!! OP don't be ashamed because money has been tight! I have been there. Some people can't help been aresholes!

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Is there any chance their performance was payback for your DH turning up uninvited at their small house party?

Some people just love kicking others when they're clearly down.

Sorry for your loss, OP.

Two items for your "to do" list this week: get cats spayed, make a "no cheeky fuckers" sign for the front door.

"Its like £50 to get a male neutered. Get them done FFS."

Charming.

OP has already said that she intends to, 5rivers7hills. She also said they are indoor cats, both male, so they are hardly likely to be impregnating any queens while the OP is saving up, and taking the time she needs to tend to more pressing issues!

FFS their are some arse holes on this thread.

OP yes totally bizarre people and nothing surprises me these days at how brazen some people are.

If it happens again, I would lie and say you just on your way out or you got to dash to appointment or something.

My god !
Where on earth have all you ass holes come from?
So intent on posting your informative rants and instructions- lots of you have missed the update about op recent loss.
for you op l'm so sorry.

When you feel stronger you'll need to have a long chat together about how to avoid a situation like this again.

OP you can often get cats neutered for free or at a reduced price. Have a look on www.cats.org.uk or search for free neutering on Google or similar.
Your visitors were very rude and pushy, I'd be more worried that they had plans to steal something or even one of the cats. Keep your doors and windows locked.
Sorry for your loss, be kind to yourself

OP, please be reassured, I have been in similar situations myself so understand the difficulty. It's especially hard when we're brought up to be good, polite hosts. I used to have a male friend who would turn up and stay for 4 hours and barely drew breath!! Frankly, he taught me how to deal with these situations as I just had to! Thank these people - they are teaching you a valuable life skill and I'm sure you will be much better prepared next time.

(Btw, there are cat charities around which can help with affordable neutering.)

So sorry for your loss, OP.

After an half an hour, oh we have to be at X appointment in 10 mins, got to ask you to make a move, and start getting your things ready. If your husband is like this, establish boundaries. Tell him that he is not to invite random people round your house, without your permission, if it is to drop something off, that is it!

Goodness they sound awful - make sure you lock your doors at night and keep the cats in!!
Very odd behaviour!!

It is bloody difficult to get visitors to leave your house whilst being polite. I bet those berating op would find this hard too. I am quite good socially and would struggle.

Easy to sit behind a keyboard saying you would tell them to leave - bollocks you would

Blimey, did they, at any point, say 'Hello Dave, you're my wife now,'?
And sorry about your sad news OP.

You have a problem. And it's not your "friends". It's your inability to place boundaries.

Sorry about your loss - I missed it among the other answers. Be kind to yourself. And yes, that means your husband should say no.

Where on earth do people meet these people?? Honestly, it's like the CFs have got some sort of radar and they can spot the people that will let them get away with murder from miles away.

People do not try this shit with me but they do with my in laws. Clearly I am a hardfaced sort.

But yes, it was fucking cheeky, YANBU.

Ha no one gets over our threshold with out prior invitations...everyone is well versed and knows the drill..we don't let randoms in

When you say they invited themselves in, how exactly did they do it?

Did they say, "Hi, can we come in please?"

I've never got my head around this sort of thing, but I read it a fair bit on MN.

I'm so very sorry for your heartbreaking loss. 🌹
Not everyone will have read the full thread, before they have commented, I'm sure.
Please don't even open the door to these entitled oddballs, should they knock on your door again. Do be kind to yourself Sweet.

I was reared to be polite to visitors. I would not be an ignorant c**t like some posters on here have been to you. I doubt they have the problem of people calling in and staying as no-one would piss on them if they were on fire.
What the fuck relevance your cat being spayed has to the conversation is beyond me.
I'm so deeply sorry for your loss. You shouldn't have had to explain that to us on this thread.
I'm going to go against the grain and say that your dh sounds delightful. You do too. If you were an ignorant cunt they wouldn't have over-stayed their welcome.