We moved to this area 18mths ago and I joined the local gym. At the time I didn't know anyone so I was pleased when a lady approached me and suggested another exercise class. Since then we have been going to aerobics together twice a week. We get on really well but although I have invited her in for a coffee after the class she has always declined. She has never invited me back to her house. In addition to the class we sometimes go walking together and we have had a few evenings out socially. However I have begun to realise that it is always me that instigates these other things and she never suggests we do anything other than go to the gym. I am getting fed up of always being the one to arrange doing something else. My question is should I accept that she just sees me as a gym buddy and be happy at that? I just feel that I am putting more into the friendship than she is.