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To vacuum on a Sunday morning

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Sayyouwill · 24/09/2017 13:15

New Upstairs neighbours. Two young lads have moved into a largely family orientated area (right next to a primary school, lots of kids parks and play areas around the houses and flats). They decided to have a party last night with banging drum and bass music blasting from around 7pm. I've lived in flats for years so don't mind when it's within 'sociable' hours as we all make noise at some point in time. They went out at 11pm which was fine. They came back at 4am and made a racket in the communal stairwell, banging on the banister, laughing, falling over drunk etc and it woke up my 9 month old baby. I knew that saying anything to them would be less than useless so I didn't bother. Baby wouldn't go back to sleep so we came through into the living room and just began our day a couple of hours early. I always blitz the flat on a Sunday morning when baby has his nap but as we were up early he went down for his nap early. It was about 9am when I started hoovering. It takes about 15 mins to do the whole flat thoroughly.
At 9.05am one of the lads started hammering on their floor/my ceiling and then a minute or so later, my front door. They threatened to call the police on me for being anti-social and never thinking about how my 'constant' hoovering was impacting their quality of life. I Hoover twice a week...
They said that I had woke them up with my crying baby at 4am and it was unreasonable of me to also hoover when they'd only just gotten back to sleep. They were the reason my baby was crying at 4am!! He usually doesn't cry at unsociable hours. He has slept through from 7pm since he was 3 months old and wakes around 6am. The flat is empty all week so it's only weekends he's there to make a noise.
Was I being unreasonable to hoover at 9am on a Sunday morning?

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BridgeOverBubbledWater · 24/09/2017 15:40

I really feel for you as I have asshole noisy neighbours who haven't worked out that the walls aren't that thick (unlike them) so I can hear their noisy/shouting/laughing etc at 2am. I wish I could move tbh but the affordability isn't there right now! Sad

My fear is if I started making a lot of noise in the morning to "wake them" after disturbing my sleep in the night, that might encourage them to be assholes further at night.

Could that be the same for you op? Although it's not unsociable or illegal to hoover at 9am on a Sunday, could they then think oh I know we will make more of a racket at night?

TeaAndToast85 · 24/09/2017 15:44

I'd avoid getting into a tit for tat situation (hoovering even earlier) because they could respond with shit music late at night (more than they already are), and the situation could escalate & get ugly very quickly. How about writing them a polite but firm sort of note, explaining that you think most people would agree that hoovering at 9am is a perfectly reasonable thing to do, and also explaining how their behaviour has affected your baby's sleep? Keep it friendly, and maybe suggest a compromise (they come home without making a proper racket and you will leave the hoovering until 10am?) either way, neighbour wars are horrible. You have my sympathy x

ForalltheSaints · 24/09/2017 16:31

In other situations I think you would be unreasonable say before 10 or 11 on what for many is the only day with the option of extra sleep. On this one occasion probably not.

RB68 · 24/09/2017 16:41

Get some baby music CDS you know nursery rhymes and such - when they wake the baby you will need to play them to get baby back to sleep...

No you are not unreasonable. I would have been saying can't think why he was awake at 4 - can you ...might it have something to do with the fact that he was woken by "the other" inconsiderate neighbours returning at 4am - it can't have been you can it....oh it was - well then reap what you sow. Although I may not be so flippin polite about it

ThaiRedCurry · 24/09/2017 16:47

This is awful you poor thing. I've worked in student property (not saying they are students but similar age) and young lads can be so awful with noise pollution. I would make a diary of noise and keep ringing council eventually they will stop or even better move out! X good luck

Sayyouwill · 24/09/2017 17:19

I usually hoover around 11 but our whole morning routine was a few hours ahead thanks to baby being awake from 4 instead of 6.
I've jokingly said to DH before that if they ever wake up DS at an unreasonable hour then I will walk the hallways with him while he's screaming to settle him lol. I haven't ever actually done that (yet).

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silverbell64 · 24/09/2017 17:21

I'd say that hoovering on a Sunday before 10am is a bit much. You don't need to enter into some sort of passive aggressive game here.

JonSnowsWife · 24/09/2017 17:31

Can just imagine the polices face when they get that phone call!

'we woke OPs baby up at 4am and then she had the audacity to hoover when we were trying to sleep it off'.

Ignore the cheeky fuckers OP. Also get on to your noise nuisance team from the council first thing tomorrow morning to nip this in the bud.

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