To ask here for advice about my weird 2ww symptoms?

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I posted in Conception a couple of days ago but since then haven't had many replies and have continued to have weird symptoms, was just wondering if anyone could advise me as to what is going on. Basically I am 11dpo, normally have a very regular 30/31 day cycle and have been TTC for a year now. I'm nearly 38, I've had two miscarriages this year and am getting pretty depressed seeing all my friends having babies :(.

Anyway so for at least 3 days now I've had EWCM as though I were ovulating, even though I'm now on CD24 and am pretty sure I ovulated on CD13. Today I have also started having cramps mainly but not completely on the left side. I have sore nipples and a hugely increased sex drive. Can anyone tell me if it sounds as though I might be pg or if I'm ovulating really really late? Also how soon I can do a pg test? AF isn't due until next Saturday. Just very confused now and would really appreciate some advice. Thanks in advance

I don't think it would be fair of anyone to speculate based on a MN post.

I hope you get BFP soon xx

Thanks SaucyJack, I know I'm being silly but I'd like some opinions from MN all the same!

Sorry for your losses. No one can know if you're pregnant until you take a test, but those symptoms are certainly consistent with pregnancy. Problem is at 11dpo could also be increased progesterone in the luteal phase. Symptom spotting is an arse, I know. I got menstrual style cramps from 7dpo when I got my BFP but everyone is different.

I really hope you get the BFP, if you can I would wait as long as possible to test because result won't be reliable if you test early. Maybe wait till Wednesday and use a FRER. Good luck.

I didn't understand most of your post but I completely sympathise with your feelings. I was in the same place 16 years ago.
The nipple thing is a good sign. The cramp thing not so much.
It's possible to conceive and lose it very early on so you may never know for sure.
With my 3rd I absolutely knew I was pg within 36 hrs of conception. It took another 4-6 weeks to get a positive test result, although tests are probably more sensitive now than 10 yrs ago.
More waiting I'm afraid. Good luck 💐

Thank you so much for your replies. Even just having people responding is helping. I live in China and don't really have close enough friends here to be able to talk about this - plus most of my friends have already had children with minimal problems conceiving, so I don't feel that anyone shares my experience apart from on MN!

With ds2, who came along much earlier than we would have liked, I had strong pmt symptoms and thought I has got away with the one time we had sex (sorry to put it like that when you're posting with the circumstances you're in, but that's how I felt at the time) without contraception that month. I was so sure even though I had regular 26 day cycles I didn't bother to test until over 30 days, when I was gobsmacked to get a bfp.

Good luck op, I hope you get the result you want.

Easier said then done, stop the 2ww nonsense. Don't put your life on hold waiting for minor physical symptoms. If you are lucky and pregnant you will know soon enough, if not, 2 weeks of hopeful agony for it to be dashed 12x a year is terrible.

Symptom-spotting totally gutted me when I was TTC. I’d be completely convinced that I was pg which made it so much harder when I got that dreaded BFN.

Both times I got pregnant (one ended in miscarriage) I had no symptoms whatsoever and was completely surprised when I got a BFP. Looking back I suspect it’s because the “symptoms” of pregnancy are the same as the ones you get just before your period - so actually what I experienced was a lack of period symptoms!

It’s easier said than done but try not to symptom-spot - you’re only setting yourself up for heartbreak.

For what it’s worth, it took us over a year to conceive the first time and 10 months the second time. What worked both times was giving up tracking anything and just having sex every other day. Plus I had reflexology the second time.

I know that's what I should do paxillin but I can't seem to manage it :( I keep symptom-spotting every month and it really helps posting on here!

I try not to track but I always seem to have the dates etc in my head :(

Remember MN has a million members, mostly female, many mothers. Somebody is bound to have had the "symptoms" you had when pregnant. Somebody is also bound to have had the same dinner the night she conceived and probably wore the same shoes. None of it helps you and makes the dashed hopes only harder to deal with.

I found it hard not to symptom spot, either. It took years of failure to finally stop.

I'm so sorry to hear of your miscarriages. Hopefully the next one will stick. In the meantime make the most of the increased sex drive while you can!